Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No way! Allen Thompson knows about women and the mind set guys should be in. You need to be persistent but playful. Don't get obsessed.VladPatton said:I never believed in that practice. By pursuing, you're playing by her rules. She says no, yet you keep playing along, but for how long? Until she decides, right? Well, then you're already in her frame, and she's got 2 fingers up your nose and leading you around in the relationship.
Stick to chicks that want to go out with you and want to have fun from the get-go. There's no shortage of them.
This.BeDJ said:TL;DR - Pursue women who have shown high interest in you. It will save you much frustration and effort in the long run.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I agree.FTW said:This.
Here's a good test: If she turns you down once, don't give her any more attention. If she starts showering you with attention, it means she was gaming you and wants you to pursue. Whether you do or don't is up to you, really. Most of the time I respect myself enough to keep her in perpetual limbo and friend zone her ass.