You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No way! Allen Thompson knows about women and the mind set guys should be in. You need to be persistent but playful. Don't get obsessed.VladPatton said:I never believed in that practice. By pursuing, you're playing by her rules. She says no, yet you keep playing along, but for how long? Until she decides, right? Well, then you're already in her frame, and she's got 2 fingers up your nose and leading you around in the relationship.
Stick to chicks that want to go out with you and want to have fun from the get-go. There's no shortage of them.
This.BeDJ said:TL;DR - Pursue women who have shown high interest in you. It will save you much frustration and effort in the long run.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I agree.FTW said:This.
Here's a good test: If she turns you down once, don't give her any more attention. If she starts showering you with attention, it means she was gaming you and wants you to pursue. Whether you do or don't is up to you, really. Most of the time I respect myself enough to keep her in perpetual limbo and friend zone her ass.