You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No way! Allen Thompson knows about women and the mind set guys should be in. You need to be persistent but playful. Don't get obsessed.VladPatton said:I never believed in that practice. By pursuing, you're playing by her rules. She says no, yet you keep playing along, but for how long? Until she decides, right? Well, then you're already in her frame, and she's got 2 fingers up your nose and leading you around in the relationship.
Stick to chicks that want to go out with you and want to have fun from the get-go. There's no shortage of them.
This.BeDJ said:TL;DR - Pursue women who have shown high interest in you. It will save you much frustration and effort in the long run.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I agree.FTW said:This.
Here's a good test: If she turns you down once, don't give her any more attention. If she starts showering you with attention, it means she was gaming you and wants you to pursue. Whether you do or don't is up to you, really. Most of the time I respect myself enough to keep her in perpetual limbo and friend zone her ass.