"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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thechosenone2190

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i agree. it's not the greatest opener, but most of my targets were MOVING/walking/going somewhere. how else do you get their attention? it's hard to make someone stop in their tracks by saying "hi" or "great weather huh?". also, out of personal preference, i dont like beating around the bush. "your cute" is very direct and let's her know my intentions right off the bat. it's just my personal preference

yes i did all those approaches in the same day. it was friday afternoon, and the weather was GORGEOUS 71 degrees. there was a cesspool of hb's outside. i also don't have class on fridays. i know i know. but once the #'s start coming in, ill be in a really good shape
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cablecow15

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If I ever notice anything unique about their clothing , I try to compliment them on it ,like "Hey nice shoes , you have a nice sense of style" of something along those lines , pretty girls get compliments on their appearance all the time , you want to stand out a lil more ,most that are attractive take their clothing very serious lol so its a good place to start if you cant find anything to talk about

P.s im far from a pro at this , im just repeating what ive read from others
 

cablecow15

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Deicide said:
Where do you live at? If you're near Tennessee, you can approach with me sometime. We're both entry-level aspiring PUA's, and we experience similar levels of inconsistency that go with attaining comfortableness in a cold approach.
Im in tennessee , I moved here not to long ago
 

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aww come on dude dont tell me you stopped , this thread motivated to do my first approach in months
 

thechosenone2190

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@cablecow15 lol what! sorry for the long hiatus. i had to get my life in order. im very flattered though, especially since if i'm FAR from being someone whose experience can "motivate" others. it means a lot to me though that i actually motivated you to do your first approach. now im feeling motivated too no homo
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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