"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cola

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JoesphBrown said:
This is the stupidest thing I have ever seen in my life...

No offense. Thrill seeker being higher than musically inclined, what about the ladies that love music. Theres ladies that love guys who play video games, tough times fall on people and they might have to move back in with their parents. I know 25 year olds who make minimum wage (less than 20k a year) who get girls on a daily basis. Nobody should take this seriously...
.. Yes there are broke 25 year old who make minimum wage and get girls.. but i bet they look good, have cool hobbies, are very charming. But are the girls they are getting quality? And dont mistake cute for quality. Do they have college degrees? (The girls), are they nuts? Do they have their own place? Daddy issues? You dont know.

As far as hobbies, generally speaking (there's exceptions to every rule) what would make a girl swoon more? Watching her boyfriend win an amateur mma fight, or watching him play twinkle twinkle little star on a flute?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alexandar

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cola, im vibing with your words, listen to the man kids. what he said should be super obvious.
 

3agle 3yes

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Obsidian said:
Social Circle +2
Personality -1
Please explain how it is possible to have many connections and friends yet be an introvert?
 

hockeyfreak79

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3agle 3yes said:
Please explain how it is possible to have many connections and friends yet be an introvert?
It's pretty rare to be 100% true introvert. I thought I was for some time but I lean more towards the middle which is Ambivert. That may be the case for Obsi. I have multiple groups of friends, my main group is most intro/ambi with a couple extros.

11+ motorcyle +1? = 12

Yay what did I win!?

I disagree with extro/intro ratings, aloofness comes naturally for intro side.
 
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