"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Clubbing advice needed

OneNine

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Hey,

I've decided after a long while spent avoiding clubs and dancing to get back out there again, but I've developed massive (stupid I know) anxieties over it. So, even though this is a little newbie 101, any words of encouragement or advice for what to do if I go into paranoid mode and try and leave or even for how to enjoy myself? The point of tomorrow night for me is to try and get comfortable at that kind of environment again, seeing as how that's the main place for sarging at university. I'm going to be with a friend and people I know, so there's a plus in terms of support.

Thanks,
OneNine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ZenGodMod

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I've stopped clubs, always end up with the most questionable women.

Easiest dam thing to do, find a friend who loves clubbing and go with him just for warm ups.

Just be there for starters. The rest will come back.
 

Sir I

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rofl :D I'm a bartender at a club. there is nothing easier than a club even if you have anxieties. it's all about not caring just having fun enjoying yourself DO NOT TALK TO MUCH. and basicly go for it. but as ZenGodMod said, it's a weird thing but you do most of the time end up with a questionable girl.

do not stress the deal enjoy yourself make contact do not even think about her reaction and at the least get a good laugh out of it.
 

DonGorgon

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Sir I said:
rofl :D I'm a bartender at a club. there is nothing easier than a club even if you have anxieties. it's all about not caring just having fun enjoying yourself DO NOT TALK TO MUCH. and basicly go for it. but as ZenGodMod said, it's a weird thing but you do most of the time end up with a questionable girl.

do not stress the deal enjoy yourself make contact do not even think about her reaction and at the least get a good laugh out of it.
Great advice..
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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