"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Clubbing advice needed

OneNine

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Hey,

I've decided after a long while spent avoiding clubs and dancing to get back out there again, but I've developed massive (stupid I know) anxieties over it. So, even though this is a little newbie 101, any words of encouragement or advice for what to do if I go into paranoid mode and try and leave or even for how to enjoy myself? The point of tomorrow night for me is to try and get comfortable at that kind of environment again, seeing as how that's the main place for sarging at university. I'm going to be with a friend and people I know, so there's a plus in terms of support.

Thanks,
OneNine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ZenGodMod

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I've stopped clubs, always end up with the most questionable women.

Easiest dam thing to do, find a friend who loves clubbing and go with him just for warm ups.

Just be there for starters. The rest will come back.
 

Sir I

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rofl :D I'm a bartender at a club. there is nothing easier than a club even if you have anxieties. it's all about not caring just having fun enjoying yourself DO NOT TALK TO MUCH. and basicly go for it. but as ZenGodMod said, it's a weird thing but you do most of the time end up with a questionable girl.

do not stress the deal enjoy yourself make contact do not even think about her reaction and at the least get a good laugh out of it.
 

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Sir I said:
rofl :D I'm a bartender at a club. there is nothing easier than a club even if you have anxieties. it's all about not caring just having fun enjoying yourself DO NOT TALK TO MUCH. and basicly go for it. but as ZenGodMod said, it's a weird thing but you do most of the time end up with a questionable girl.

do not stress the deal enjoy yourself make contact do not even think about her reaction and at the least get a good laugh out of it.
Great advice..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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