"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Clubbing advice needed

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OneNine

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Hey,

I've decided after a long while spent avoiding clubs and dancing to get back out there again, but I've developed massive (stupid I know) anxieties over it. So, even though this is a little newbie 101, any words of encouragement or advice for what to do if I go into paranoid mode and try and leave or even for how to enjoy myself? The point of tomorrow night for me is to try and get comfortable at that kind of environment again, seeing as how that's the main place for sarging at university. I'm going to be with a friend and people I know, so there's a plus in terms of support.

Thanks,
OneNine.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've stopped clubs, always end up with the most questionable women.

Easiest dam thing to do, find a friend who loves clubbing and go with him just for warm ups.

Just be there for starters. The rest will come back.
 
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rofl :D I'm a bartender at a club. there is nothing easier than a club even if you have anxieties. it's all about not caring just having fun enjoying yourself DO NOT TALK TO MUCH. and basicly go for it. but as ZenGodMod said, it's a weird thing but you do most of the time end up with a questionable girl.

do not stress the deal enjoy yourself make contact do not even think about her reaction and at the least get a good laugh out of it.
 
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Sir I said:
rofl :D I'm a bartender at a club. there is nothing easier than a club even if you have anxieties. it's all about not caring just having fun enjoying yourself DO NOT TALK TO MUCH. and basicly go for it. but as ZenGodMod said, it's a weird thing but you do most of the time end up with a questionable girl.

do not stress the deal enjoy yourself make contact do not even think about her reaction and at the least get a good laugh out of it.
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Great advice..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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