Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lol...in Massachusetts of all places? I'm surprise it's not Miami, Paris or Los Angeles....lol haha..if this dude is as big as he says he is, he'd have no problems getting with the women he wants. Of course like the good ole saying by Charlie Sheen, ' I pay them to leave'....he was probably tired of the games and wanted an easy, no effort lay which may backfire.Homie got arrested for rape damn !!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
never liked him makes what we do here sound simple !They really want to go after any man who pulls women.
Not a fan of this fella, nonetheless I can't help but note:Homie got arrested for rape damn !!
agreed!!Not a fan of this fella, nonetheless I can't help but note:
Men deemed "controversial" are getting charged with this particular crime with shocking frequency these days, based solely on an accusation. What's more than likely:
-All these men are predators
Or
-It's become a fad among law enforcement to bust countercultural figures on flimsy accusations, same way both local and federal 5-0 were targeting everyone deemed "revolutionary" during Nixon's reign
I suspect the latter
Society, especially feminist society, doesn't care about that.We also should keep in mind that he isn’t proven guilty, and is assumed innocent until then. We have to wait & see until the trial.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.