I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
But sometimes what makes a chick a sex pot is the fact that she is entirely NOT classy, you know?Ronnie Poleman said:Sex pot for short-term...classy chick for long term, if you had to choose one or the other. But like others have said, why not a classy chick who is also a sex pot? If Don Juans can be classy gentlemen whilst being good with the ladies and smooth in bed, surely there will be a few women who are diamonds in the rough and are all-round good human beings too? They will be hard to find, like all good things, but worth it.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
To tell you the honest truth neither of the two women mentioned above strike me as "women who just run wild with sexual vibes"toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
realsmoothie said:Neither Jessica (Biel or Alba) strikes me as "sex pot".
Yeah, they are "hot", but they both seem a little too together, too cleaned up. Especially Alba, she looks like she'd be terrible in bed.
Well you are still a virgin.OTB said:Although I'm sure that many of you here have gotten laid at least one time in your lives, you are still Beta Males for one reason:
Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.SoldMySoul said:Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Not a real good example, IMO. It is hard to tell a difference in these two because the shots you are using is upper torso and face mainly. If the younger had slouchy ass jeans on then I may agree. Both of these women are attractive to me and it has a lot to do with me liking dark hair.Darth said:Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.
It's basically the difference between this: http://a284.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/63/m_cd080d23b47c87f1240cab1df9602e6b.jpg
and this:
http://blogs.singlemindedwomen.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/bachelorette.jpg
One looks like a woman, one is not.
Nope and I will tell you why!!! Because that is one hot ass looking blonde wearing behind closed doors sexy lingerie! I am referring to daily wear. If the lingerie wearing one wore this in public it would raise a public concern.Darth said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Actually Darth, that's the perfect comparison of what we're talking about here!Darth said:
I think I liked your previous comparison just a bit better!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.