I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
But sometimes what makes a chick a sex pot is the fact that she is entirely NOT classy, you know?Ronnie Poleman said:Sex pot for short-term...classy chick for long term, if you had to choose one or the other. But like others have said, why not a classy chick who is also a sex pot? If Don Juans can be classy gentlemen whilst being good with the ladies and smooth in bed, surely there will be a few women who are diamonds in the rough and are all-round good human beings too? They will be hard to find, like all good things, but worth it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
To tell you the honest truth neither of the two women mentioned above strike me as "women who just run wild with sexual vibes"toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
realsmoothie said:Neither Jessica (Biel or Alba) strikes me as "sex pot".
Yeah, they are "hot", but they both seem a little too together, too cleaned up. Especially Alba, she looks like she'd be terrible in bed.
Well you are still a virgin.OTB said:Although I'm sure that many of you here have gotten laid at least one time in your lives, you are still Beta Males for one reason:
Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.SoldMySoul said:Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Not a real good example, IMO. It is hard to tell a difference in these two because the shots you are using is upper torso and face mainly. If the younger had slouchy ass jeans on then I may agree. Both of these women are attractive to me and it has a lot to do with me liking dark hair.Darth said:Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.
It's basically the difference between this: http://a284.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/63/m_cd080d23b47c87f1240cab1df9602e6b.jpg
and this:
http://blogs.singlemindedwomen.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/bachelorette.jpg
One looks like a woman, one is not.
Nope and I will tell you why!!! Because that is one hot ass looking blonde wearing behind closed doors sexy lingerie! I am referring to daily wear. If the lingerie wearing one wore this in public it would raise a public concern.Darth said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Actually Darth, that's the perfect comparison of what we're talking about here!Darth said:
I think I liked your previous comparison just a bit better!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.