I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
But sometimes what makes a chick a sex pot is the fact that she is entirely NOT classy, you know?Ronnie Poleman said:Sex pot for short-term...classy chick for long term, if you had to choose one or the other. But like others have said, why not a classy chick who is also a sex pot? If Don Juans can be classy gentlemen whilst being good with the ladies and smooth in bed, surely there will be a few women who are diamonds in the rough and are all-round good human beings too? They will be hard to find, like all good things, but worth it.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
To tell you the honest truth neither of the two women mentioned above strike me as "women who just run wild with sexual vibes"toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
realsmoothie said:Neither Jessica (Biel or Alba) strikes me as "sex pot".
Yeah, they are "hot", but they both seem a little too together, too cleaned up. Especially Alba, she looks like she'd be terrible in bed.
Well you are still a virgin.OTB said:Although I'm sure that many of you here have gotten laid at least one time in your lives, you are still Beta Males for one reason:
Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.SoldMySoul said:Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Not a real good example, IMO. It is hard to tell a difference in these two because the shots you are using is upper torso and face mainly. If the younger had slouchy ass jeans on then I may agree. Both of these women are attractive to me and it has a lot to do with me liking dark hair.Darth said:Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.
It's basically the difference between this: http://a284.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/63/m_cd080d23b47c87f1240cab1df9602e6b.jpg
and this:
http://blogs.singlemindedwomen.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/bachelorette.jpg
One looks like a woman, one is not.
Nope and I will tell you why!!! Because that is one hot ass looking blonde wearing behind closed doors sexy lingerie! I am referring to daily wear. If the lingerie wearing one wore this in public it would raise a public concern.Darth said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Actually Darth, that's the perfect comparison of what we're talking about here!Darth said:
I think I liked your previous comparison just a bit better!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.