I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm not sure I understand your point.DonGorgon said:oh you mean a retired sex pot??? lol.. well women are staying in the game up into their 40s now so you may need to find a nice polite 60 year old since most other women are still sexpots
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
But sometimes what makes a chick a sex pot is the fact that she is entirely NOT classy, you know?Ronnie Poleman said:Sex pot for short-term...classy chick for long term, if you had to choose one or the other. But like others have said, why not a classy chick who is also a sex pot? If Don Juans can be classy gentlemen whilst being good with the ladies and smooth in bed, surely there will be a few women who are diamonds in the rough and are all-round good human beings too? They will be hard to find, like all good things, but worth it.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
To tell you the honest truth neither of the two women mentioned above strike me as "women who just run wild with sexual vibes"toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
realsmoothie said:Neither Jessica (Biel or Alba) strikes me as "sex pot".
Yeah, they are "hot", but they both seem a little too together, too cleaned up. Especially Alba, she looks like she'd be terrible in bed.
Well you are still a virgin.OTB said:Although I'm sure that many of you here have gotten laid at least one time in your lives, you are still Beta Males for one reason:
Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.toddlips said:This one is always been tough for me to decide on. An attractive, classy girl who will represent you well when you are together versus the super-hot girl who oozes sexuality. I've been with both for the most part and it doesn't make this any easier to decide on.
Perhaps this is better communicated with an example using celebs. Would you rather be with a girl like Natalie Portman, who is classy and smart, or Jessica Alba or Jessica Biel - women who just run wild with sexual vibes?
Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.SoldMySoul said:Easy for me to answer! Always, and I do mean always I prefer the classy woman. I would much rather see a woman in business attire/ skirt with nice shoes and thigh highs as compared to jeans. It has always been a major turn on for me. I like a well kept woman.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Not a real good example, IMO. It is hard to tell a difference in these two because the shots you are using is upper torso and face mainly. If the younger had slouchy ass jeans on then I may agree. Both of these women are attractive to me and it has a lot to do with me liking dark hair.Darth said:Me too. Nothing turns me off more than a woman who looks like she just rolled out of bed, or ripped jeans with her butt hanging out.
It's basically the difference between this: http://a284.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/63/m_cd080d23b47c87f1240cab1df9602e6b.jpg
and this:
http://blogs.singlemindedwomen.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/bachelorette.jpg
One looks like a woman, one is not.
Nope and I will tell you why!!! Because that is one hot ass looking blonde wearing behind closed doors sexy lingerie! I am referring to daily wear. If the lingerie wearing one wore this in public it would raise a public concern.Darth said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Actually Darth, that's the perfect comparison of what we're talking about here!Darth said:
I think I liked your previous comparison just a bit better!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner!Darth said:All right, fine. I'll make it OBVIOUS
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c196/syringa17/BeautifulIngridBergman.jpg
http://www.emo-styles.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/emo-girl.jpg
One is a classy, beautiful woman...and one is not.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.