"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Cheeky_James

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How to have a normal conversation with people? You just talk with the objective if finding common ground, build familiarity, and get to know them. For example, ask how they know each other, build on whatever comes up, share stories, joke around, and find similar interests. If the conversation becomes more personal and flirtatious, things can progress from there.

As with everything, life is too short, and you cannot seduce everyone. If the women are open to you and there's mutual interest, things can progress naturally. If not, move on.
dude I gave you the scenario
And desrcribed the 2 women.
It’s 12am when you approach:
How exactly do you go about picking them up and what exactly do you say?
Do you ask them what their favorite colour is or what..:rolleyes:
Have a “just have a normal conversation” isn’t much of an answer. What does “normal” convo with 2 hot b1tches on a Saturday night at a bar at 12am look like for you.. in detail pls.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dude I gave you the scenario
And desrcribed the 2 women.
It’s 12am when you approach:
How exactly do you go about picking them up and what exactly do you say?
Do you ask them what their favorite colour is or what..:rolleyes:
Have a “just have a normal conversation” isn’t much of an answer. What does “normal” convo with 2 hot b1tches on a Saturday night at a bar at 12am look like for you.. in detail pls.
You are trying to force me into giving you a scripted routine, which is exactly what I’m critiquing you for.

Maybe slow down and realize that not every interaction needs to follow a predetermined sequence. Read the situation, use your social skills, and adapt accordingly.
 

Cheeky_James

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You are trying to force me into giving you a scripted routine, which is exactly what I’m critiquing you for.

Maybe slow down and realize that not every interaction needs to follow a predetermined sequence. Read the situation, use your social skills, and adapt accordingly.
no. I am not actually.
Btw. How many girls would you estimate you’ve picked up from bars and clubs.? Do you have any credentials ..? Serious question,
Why do you think you can give advice to me?
 

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no. I am not actually.
Btw. How many girls would you estimate you’ve picked up from bars and clubs.? Do you have any credentials ..? Serious question,
Why do you think you can give advice to me?
Look, you asked how I’d approach the situation, and I’ve explained my approach. You’re free to disagree with it. However, you’re overcomplicating a social interaction, and there is enough evidence here to suggest that your social skills could use some work.
 

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Look, you asked how I’d approach the situation, and I’ve explained my approach. You’re free to disagree with it. However, you’re overcomplicating a social interaction, and there is enough evidence here to suggest that your social skills could use some work.
I appreciate your concern, but I can handle it.
Thanks for sharing. I don’t want to talk about it anymore with you now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cheeky_James

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Update and date report !

so I had a impromptu lunchtime date today with a chick I matched on Hinge on Sunday I think (just before I got banned) luckily she’d given me her number and wed moved off the app.

A blonde blue eyes and her first profile pic was her in a bikini with a massive set of thunder cannon t1ts that took up half the photo :oops:

she is my age bracket so id call her a GlamourMILF.
A Stiflers Mom type from the movie American Pie.
Which are some of my favorite types.
Blonde big t1ts and ditzy , but heaps of fun. :D

this was a very straightforward and short online exchange, which was pretty funny. Great quick fire banter txts we exchanged Sunday and Monday with lots of innuendo and intent shown my side.

It was funny as I was thinking on Monday I was smooth AF and my game was fire .
But on reflection, when I reviewed it , it just proved an old maxim that says ;

“If a woman likes you, she will make it easy for you”

she actually made it pretty easy for me. and she sparked most of the banter , I just followed , showed lotsa intent and approval of her and pushed a bit for the date today. (wed)

the date went 2 hours we had a few drinks and a few hot make outs . I didn’t try to pull as there was a 2hr limit. But she would have probably been up for it. But the thing was . She was so funny and her stories so interesting the time flew by.

plus she had the most awesome rack and had dressed super low cut on top to show them off.

much innuendo came from me about her epic cans. And she seemed super keen on our parting . We pretty much agreed on it anyway on the date so happy days and looking forward to date 2 .:cool:

so a night and day difference of type of date vs the last 2 I went on. She’s a bit older than those 2 and open to casual so that explains it simply I guess. But I was relieved tbh.
 

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jumped on FEELD the last few days and got a burst of likes and some matches .

Including one chick I have seen on this app previously back in December and whom I saw IRL on a night out around Xmas. She is a very sexy brunette MiLF. I watched a lot of guys hit on her that night. And was thinking about her for days afterwards back then, very very sexy dark Greek -background looking woman.

got a match w her yesterday (whoop!) and after some quick assertive action-man texting set up a date for tmrw evening!!

OH yeah :)

I hope this one goes well now and she feels the chemistry in the flesh….as I REALLY wanna fvck this ch1ck :D:devil::up: she’s sexy AF , for an older bird… wouldnt mind a few goes on it actually :D
I’d be trying for as many as possible w this one!

I’ll be more than happy to just get close to her anyway.
Hopefully she dresses up sexy style for CJ tmrw…:p

woo woo!
 
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