"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cheeky_James

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How to have a normal conversation with people? You just talk with the objective if finding common ground, build familiarity, and get to know them. For example, ask how they know each other, build on whatever comes up, share stories, joke around, and find similar interests. If the conversation becomes more personal and flirtatious, things can progress from there.

As with everything, life is too short, and you cannot seduce everyone. If the women are open to you and there's mutual interest, things can progress naturally. If not, move on.
dude I gave you the scenario
And desrcribed the 2 women.
It’s 12am when you approach:
How exactly do you go about picking them up and what exactly do you say?
Do you ask them what their favorite colour is or what..:rolleyes:
Have a “just have a normal conversation” isn’t much of an answer. What does “normal” convo with 2 hot b1tches on a Saturday night at a bar at 12am look like for you.. in detail pls.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude I gave you the scenario
And desrcribed the 2 women.
It’s 12am when you approach:
How exactly do you go about picking them up and what exactly do you say?
Do you ask them what their favorite colour is or what..:rolleyes:
Have a “just have a normal conversation” isn’t much of an answer. What does “normal” convo with 2 hot b1tches on a Saturday night at a bar at 12am look like for you.. in detail pls.
You are trying to force me into giving you a scripted routine, which is exactly what I’m critiquing you for.

Maybe slow down and realize that not every interaction needs to follow a predetermined sequence. Read the situation, use your social skills, and adapt accordingly.
 

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You are trying to force me into giving you a scripted routine, which is exactly what I’m critiquing you for.

Maybe slow down and realize that not every interaction needs to follow a predetermined sequence. Read the situation, use your social skills, and adapt accordingly.
no. I am not actually.
Btw. How many girls would you estimate you’ve picked up from bars and clubs.? Do you have any credentials ..? Serious question,
Why do you think you can give advice to me?
 

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no. I am not actually.
Btw. How many girls would you estimate you’ve picked up from bars and clubs.? Do you have any credentials ..? Serious question,
Why do you think you can give advice to me?
Look, you asked how I’d approach the situation, and I’ve explained my approach. You’re free to disagree with it. However, you’re overcomplicating a social interaction, and there is enough evidence here to suggest that your social skills could use some work.
 

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Look, you asked how I’d approach the situation, and I’ve explained my approach. You’re free to disagree with it. However, you’re overcomplicating a social interaction, and there is enough evidence here to suggest that your social skills could use some work.
I appreciate your concern, but I can handle it.
Thanks for sharing. I don’t want to talk about it anymore with you now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Update and date report !

so I had a impromptu lunchtime date today with a chick I matched on Hinge on Sunday I think (just before I got banned) luckily she’d given me her number and wed moved off the app.

A blonde blue eyes and her first profile pic was her in a bikini with a massive set of thunder cannon t1ts that took up half the photo :oops:

she is my age bracket so id call her a GlamourMILF.
A Stiflers Mom type from the movie American Pie.
Which are some of my favorite types.
Blonde big t1ts and ditzy , but heaps of fun. :D

this was a very straightforward and short online exchange, which was pretty funny. Great quick fire banter txts we exchanged Sunday and Monday with lots of innuendo and intent shown my side.

It was funny as I was thinking on Monday I was smooth AF and my game was fire .
But on reflection, when I reviewed it , it just proved an old maxim that says ;

“If a woman likes you, she will make it easy for you”

she actually made it pretty easy for me. and she sparked most of the banter , I just followed , showed lotsa intent and approval of her and pushed a bit for the date today. (wed)

the date went 2 hours we had a few drinks and a few hot make outs . I didn’t try to pull as there was a 2hr limit. But she would have probably been up for it. But the thing was . She was so funny and her stories so interesting the time flew by.

plus she had the most awesome rack and had dressed super low cut on top to show them off.

much innuendo came from me about her epic cans. And she seemed super keen on our parting . We pretty much agreed on it anyway on the date so happy days and looking forward to date 2 .:cool:

so a night and day difference of type of date vs the last 2 I went on. She’s a bit older than those 2 and open to casual so that explains it simply I guess. But I was relieved tbh.
 

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jumped on FEELD the last few days and got a burst of likes and some matches .

Including one chick I have seen on this app previously back in December and whom I saw IRL on a night out around Xmas. She is a very sexy brunette MiLF. I watched a lot of guys hit on her that night. And was thinking about her for days afterwards back then, very very sexy dark Greek -background looking woman.

got a match w her yesterday (whoop!) and after some quick assertive action-man texting set up a date for tmrw evening!!

OH yeah :)

I hope this one goes well now and she feels the chemistry in the flesh….as I REALLY wanna fvck this ch1ck :D:devil::up: she’s sexy AF , for an older bird… wouldnt mind a few goes on it actually :D
I’d be trying for as many as possible w this one!

I’ll be more than happy to just get close to her anyway.
Hopefully she dresses up sexy style for CJ tmrw…:p

woo woo!
 
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Update!
Just had the date.
Another dud.
That’s 3 duds out of 4 dates now. I had a suspicion it would be tbh. I saw this chick getting a LOT of attention on a night out a long time ago. And recall her old bio mentioning younger men.

Date went 25 mins and it seemed to be ok, but she was talking a LOT telling me stores . But the stories featured sexual stuff so I was thinking it was all rosy. Haha!
then 20 mins in. as I was escalating touches on her,…bang no go . Denied .
(I should have seen this coming. her body language had changed into a “curled up” pose as we were sitting on a bench side by side. Her arms around her knees at that point, stupid me I should have noticed this as it was obvious. But I was a bit zapped form the sunshine today and spending the arvo at an outside swimming pool getting too much of it.)
And before this she was giving me nice sexy Eye contact and seemed fine w me breaking the touch barrier w her . ?! Grrrrr!

Anyway on my more forward touchy sexual escalation on her thighs and shoulder/ arm she called it -and told me “no spark was present for her, sorry she’s looking for a certain kind of spark blah blah.blah” The Dear John speech :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::p

I was a little shaken as I’d not spotted the signals .

but recovered quickly and said “ah no bother no worries “ etc . Next bit was funny tho, as I had just bought a fresh margarita for myself . And just had a lil sip at that point. I said next “ that’s fine you can go if you want “ she replied “ no no im happy to stay! I’m enjoying your company” at which point I repeated she can leave etc . Her “ oh so would you prefer I leave?” Me - “ yep”

After this she quickly and kinda awkwardly scooted off. I guess I had dismissed her bluntly.
Ah well. No point hanging around if we’re not fvcking tbh. What’s the point?

So I’ve made a new rule to myself to ‘ call it early’ w chicks on future dates and ask them indirectly point blank after 10-15 mins if they feel any chemistry. If it’s a no , finish drink and bail. Fvck hanging around waiting for it later and spunking money on drinks for ‘company’. lol.

At least this was shorter than the last 2 duds, which were 2 hours and 1 hour respectively,

Hopefully the blonde Stiflers Mom w the thunder cannon tits is still keen on me next week….
 
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UPDATE! :D

cue the military march drum beat.
“All right sweethearts. We are a team and there’s nothin to worry about. We come here, and we gonna conquer, and we gonna kick some, is that understood?- WE.ARE.GOING. TO.GO.AND. GET .SOME”:cool:
“Move it out goddammit ! Get HOT!”



So the update ..Not much. :lol:GlamourMIlF Bigtits has been busy and gone quiet. I was not sure if she’d cooled off (I haven’t been texting her) but then she popped up and proposed a date a few days back.. unfortunately I was working that night (dangg). I have not texted her much or chased her since our date. Just some small exchanges . She flicked me a meme and vice versa and that’s about it . Which is good.

“keep it TIGHT people, look SHARP.
Remember we are marines and we have a job to do”

I have another one the go from Feeld app mayhe meet her next week. But she is subpar tbh.
I had a few more but all fairly subpar so I shook my head snapped out of it and cut them off. Some very funny exchanges on the apps this week tbh. And a 2 hour sexting marathon w one chick , where she gave me the best porno BJ in history and we went through all the positions in the Kama Sutra over text :rofl: but she’s a player running Game on me and not available for 2 weeks . I reckon a pr1cktease so I cut her also.

gotta remember to keep the quality control in check and not get too thirsty , like in Q1 this year , where some questionable decisions were made .:oops::eek::cry:

As Tony Robbins would say
“RAISE. YOUR. STANDARDS!”

that is all team. CJ is going into the Alien Hive now again (the apps).

“what IS that Hudson?”

“- don’t ask ME man.. I only WORK here..”

“….proceed inside”


CJ OUT.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Update..

So back out again last night on my local bar strip from 10pm -2am.

7-8 approaches last night and zip for me.
Just a lack of sleep and a hangover

Too young and too many queer chicks in my neighbourhood bars . It was obvs to me I just wasn’t getting Attraction off the bat each time.

I almost got in with one tall blondie chick with a thicc body and big tits.
But her grilld friend told me she likes ‘drug fvcked dudes’. And I did not have any cocaine on me last night , so.

Plus going out solo is tough also imo and was noticed and commented back to me, even with me having convos w dudes throughout the night..I need a good wing. badly.

Hit up 3-4 chicks on the apps to see if they was out and might fancy a booty call… nada there either .

“Nothing . Nada. ZIP.. we hit NOTHING major “


Will try another area next night.
Venue selection is critical in Da Game.
Just hard to find where my age bracket hangs out these days tbh…
 
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Update..

So back out again last night on my local bar strip from 10pm -2am.

7-8 approaches last night and zip for me.
Just a lack of sleep and a hangover

Too young and too many queer chicks in my neighbourhood bars . It was obvs to me I just wasn’t getting Attraction off the bat each time.

I almost got in with one tall blondie chick with a thicc body and big tits.
But her grilld friend told me she likes ‘drug fvcked dudes’. And I did not have any cocaine on me last night , so.

Plus going out solo is tough also imo and was noticed and commented back to me, even with me having convos w dudes throughout the night..I need a good wing. badly.

Hit up 3-4 chicks on the apps to see if they was out and might fancy a booty call… nada there either .

“Nothing . Nada. ZIP.. we hit NOTHING major “


Will try another area next night.
Venue selection is critical in Da Game.
Just hard to find where my age bracket hangs out these days tbh…
Is your face still puffy from the previous drinking session?

I think you need sober game to go alongside these drinking/entertainment evenings out. Drinking like this is a bad slope to get on bro.
 

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Is your face still puffy from the previous drinking session?

I think you need sober game to go alongside these drinking/entertainment evenings out. Drinking like this is a bad slope to get on bro.
You are really anti beer hey :lol:
I’ve tried sober nightgame many times and it’s very tough tbh.
Need the turbo charge and Dutch courage for the assertive physical game required in those venues.
If no drinking , it’s really boring and hit the wall at 11pm . No good.

In nightlife the window for pulling is usually after 10pm to 2am (or later) when chicks have had a few beverages (and they have the beer goggles on then too ) and then getting sex after closing in the wee hours.

So I am probably just getting too old for this sh1t as Danny Glover says.

I think I’ll stick to apps and my Netlfix and chill seducfion game . It better than cold approach ime. Much less messing around, dressing up going out and spending money on booze. It’s $16 (!) a pint nowadays also.. FML

At the weekends then I can just stay at home and the chicks can booty call me after drinking at the club. Haha. Makes way more sense that acfually..
Just a bit more time investment on the phone chatting and seducing…

DayGame is near useless ime and I have put the effort in. It’s just low odds and pretty random to get success.. I’ll keep trying here and there tho.
 

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You are really anti beer hey :lol:
I’ve tried sober nightgame many times and it’s very tough tbh.
Need the turbo charge and Dutch courage for the assertive physical game required in those venues.
If no drinking , it’s really boring and hit the wall at 11pm . No good.

In nightlife the window for pulling is usually after 10pm to 2am (or later) when chicks have had a few beverages (and they have the beer goggles on then too ) and then getting sex after closing in the wee hours.

So I am probably just getting too old for this sh1t as Danny Glover says.

I think I’ll stick to apps and my Netlfix and chill seducfion game . It better than cold approach ime. Much less messing around, dressing up going out and spending money on booze. It’s $16 (!) a pint nowadays also.. FML

At the weekends then I can just stay at home and the chicks can booty call me after drinking at the club. Haha. Makes way more sense that acfually..
Just a bit more time investment on the phone chatting and seducing…

DayGame is near useless ime and I have put the effort in. It’s just low odds and pretty random to get success.. I’ll keep trying here and there tho.
I'm having my first drinks of the year in 3 weeks for my birthday with a mixed group in Leeds.

Being ripped AF in these booze dens let's you utterly mogg as weekly drinking easily wipes 2-4 points off looks and charisma of weekly casual drinkers (weight gain, poor blotchy skin, needing 4 drinks just to feel normal/confident, etc).
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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