You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Seems a bit harsh. He's 74 years old. He's incredibly successful, wealthy, talented, and respected in his field. He's tall, and while not muscular, he appears to be in good shape. He was the creator, head writer, and executive producer of what some say is the greatest sitcom in history* (Seinfeld), and his own show (Curb Your Enthusiasm) is arguably better. He's witty, and he had the gonads to be a stand up comedian. I don't believe for one moment he would have trouble finding women. Of course he's married anyway, and his wife looks good for her age (63).He’s Ugly AF. Sure he got girls in his show. Real life. No way.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Really, censorbot?* My nominee would be The **** Van Dyke Show.
Fair point.Seems a bit harsh. He's 74 years old. He's incredibly successful, wealthy, talented, and respected in his field. He's tall, and while not muscular, he appears to be in good shape. He was the creator, head writer, and executive producer of what some say is the greatest sitcom in history* (Seinfeld), and his own show (Curb Your Enthusiasm) is arguably better. He's witty, and he had the gonads to be a stand up comedian. I don't believe for one moment he would have trouble finding women. Of course he's married anyway, and his wife looks good for her age (63).
One thing that always struck me as funny. On his show he usually wears what I call a "PUA jacket" (the same kind of over your clothes blazer or jacket that all the PUA gurus wore to dress "one step above the rest of the crowd").
* My nominee would be The **** Van Dyke Show.