You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Seems a bit harsh. He's 74 years old. He's incredibly successful, wealthy, talented, and respected in his field. He's tall, and while not muscular, he appears to be in good shape. He was the creator, head writer, and executive producer of what some say is the greatest sitcom in history* (Seinfeld), and his own show (Curb Your Enthusiasm) is arguably better. He's witty, and he had the gonads to be a stand up comedian. I don't believe for one moment he would have trouble finding women. Of course he's married anyway, and his wife looks good for her age (63).He’s Ugly AF. Sure he got girls in his show. Real life. No way.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Really, censorbot?* My nominee would be The **** Van Dyke Show.
Fair point.Seems a bit harsh. He's 74 years old. He's incredibly successful, wealthy, talented, and respected in his field. He's tall, and while not muscular, he appears to be in good shape. He was the creator, head writer, and executive producer of what some say is the greatest sitcom in history* (Seinfeld), and his own show (Curb Your Enthusiasm) is arguably better. He's witty, and he had the gonads to be a stand up comedian. I don't believe for one moment he would have trouble finding women. Of course he's married anyway, and his wife looks good for her age (63).
One thing that always struck me as funny. On his show he usually wears what I call a "PUA jacket" (the same kind of over your clothes blazer or jacket that all the PUA gurus wore to dress "one step above the rest of the crowd").
* My nominee would be The **** Van Dyke Show.