LongDrinkofWater
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Just don't let her find it...
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
www.bristollair.comMacAvoy said:\ O /, I like your idea, great to have an aresenal you can look to when your running dry. However how can I learn more about what the items on your cheat sheet are?
Things like
Who lies more
two part kiss opener
The lying game,
fvck-marry-kill
strawberry fields
and so on
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Some people need more than Nature. If everyone could just go out and do it, than we wouldn't need a sight.B4IFURU18? said:OPENERS ARE SO 1999. Just be human, and touch on normal things that are going on around you. Nuff of this canned bull****. It's lame and robotic.
zerocelcius said:Some people need more than Nature. If everyone could just go out and do it, than we wouldn't need a sight.
PLUS some people like the PUA stuff. To each their own.
All solid points, but I think you're mistaking the goal (DJ or PUA) with the learning process.B4IFURU18? said:I understand that, but what embodies a PUA is to be pure in mind. You learn this through practice. You shouldn't need canned openers. It's just like Barry Bonds shouldn't need to use steroids to accomplish his goals.
A true PUA (god I hate this ****ing term) constantly works on bettering himself by being a true conversationalist, not a robot who studies, and rips off openers that some dude named Mystery came up with. That's unoriginal and lame as hell.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That is the sad hard truth. We all need to start somewhere. Natural Style is going to come. As long as you try.B4IFURU18? said:zerocelcius -
Good post. I think people here are in need of a lot more help than I initially thought. I just see a lot of guys here that are so twisted and confused. I hate to see them turn into some programmed robot that's not congruent with their self.
I guess if it takes canned openers to build rapport, and in turn build confidence, use them. Just don't rely on them to get you laid. You must exude natural confidence and real interest.
Good luck men!
zerocelcius said:IF you don't know most of these you should search their names/titles on here or read some books.
DJ BIBLE – Various DJ’s
Tips – Various DJ’s
Art of Seduction - by Robert Greene
Mystery Method - by Mystery, Lovedrop, and Neil Strauss
The Game - by Neil Strauss
43 Laws - by Robert Greene
Etc.
I saw some I don't know. Some were Original stuff so look who posted it and PM them and maybe they will explain it or even post it.
Great Post!
HAHAzerocelcius said:I stand corrected.
Thank you.
48 Laws - by Robert Greene
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.