So.. does approaching a girl you've approached before count? More importantly, how do you deal with it gracefully when you've forgotten you've approached this girl b/c you never remembered her face amongst the 100's you've talked to?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Challenge 2006: The Year Of Approaching!
- Thread starter aftershock
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
No. I think I made that quite obvious.
I don't understand the question.
Lhemmix
Don Juan
I'm in
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I did 2 today at the bus stop.
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
Futuristic
Don Juan
Sounds cool man. Count me in. I'll be back to college mid january so I'll probably start then.
WrEcKLeSS2000
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Count me in as well, I've been slacking for so long but I think this is the motivation I need to get back in the game.
Dont they say that you shouldnt put women as your main intrest in life? Make sure your doing things that dont involve women, make sure you have a life outside women!
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
Malachi
Don Juan
Well i can't do 3 a day for reasons....but i'll make it so i approach every op.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
scorpio king
Don Juan
BUMP!
aftershock
Master Don Juan
I've no idea how many I'm on. Must be over 50 already. Too hard to keep track though.
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
LiveStrong
Don Juan
.....im down like a clown charlie brown
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i don't even keep track anymore..this is a very interesting little journel you have going on here. i don't know about you but it becomes friggin' boring after a while and i don't even want to approach anymore,it's like the girls laugh on cue exactly when i expect them to and IOI's are oh soo predictable now.I may get into it again -justt the other day i did about 13 cold approaches averaging between 15-60 minutes each,all conversations with emphasis on DHV stories and personality conveying routines ( i am practicing MM) i don't even get numbers anymore because i NEVER call them anyways and i can see it in them like they are expecting me to ask them out right there (yeah right) ... if you're still nervous and a little anxious right before you approach..be happy because it's still exciting, once it becomes routine ...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.