So.. does approaching a girl you've approached before count? More importantly, how do you deal with it gracefully when you've forgotten you've approached this girl b/c you never remembered her face amongst the 100's you've talked to?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Challenge 2006: The Year Of Approaching!
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
No. I think I made that quite obvious.
I don't understand the question.
Lhemmix
Don Juan
I'm in
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I did 2 today at the bus stop.
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
Futuristic
Don Juan
Sounds cool man. Count me in. I'll be back to college mid january so I'll probably start then.
WrEcKLeSS2000
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Count me in as well, I've been slacking for so long but I think this is the motivation I need to get back in the game.
Dont they say that you shouldnt put women as your main intrest in life? Make sure your doing things that dont involve women, make sure you have a life outside women!
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
Malachi
Don Juan
Well i can't do 3 a day for reasons....but i'll make it so i approach every op.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
scorpio king
Don Juan
BUMP!
aftershock
Master Don Juan
I've no idea how many I'm on. Must be over 50 already. Too hard to keep track though.
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
LiveStrong
Don Juan
.....im down like a clown charlie brown
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i don't even keep track anymore..this is a very interesting little journel you have going on here. i don't know about you but it becomes friggin' boring after a while and i don't even want to approach anymore,it's like the girls laugh on cue exactly when i expect them to and IOI's are oh soo predictable now.I may get into it again -justt the other day i did about 13 cold approaches averaging between 15-60 minutes each,all conversations with emphasis on DHV stories and personality conveying routines ( i am practicing MM) i don't even get numbers anymore because i NEVER call them anyways and i can see it in them like they are expecting me to ask them out right there (yeah right) ... if you're still nervous and a little anxious right before you approach..be happy because it's still exciting, once it becomes routine ...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.