So.. does approaching a girl you've approached before count? More importantly, how do you deal with it gracefully when you've forgotten you've approached this girl b/c you never remembered her face amongst the 100's you've talked to?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Challenge 2006: The Year Of Approaching!
- Thread starter aftershock
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
No. I think I made that quite obvious.
I don't understand the question.
Lhemmix
Don Juan
I'm in
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I did 2 today at the bus stop.
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
Futuristic
Don Juan
Sounds cool man. Count me in. I'll be back to college mid january so I'll probably start then.
WrEcKLeSS2000
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Count me in as well, I've been slacking for so long but I think this is the motivation I need to get back in the game.
Dont they say that you shouldnt put women as your main intrest in life? Make sure your doing things that dont involve women, make sure you have a life outside women!
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
Malachi
Don Juan
Well i can't do 3 a day for reasons....but i'll make it so i approach every op.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
scorpio king
Don Juan
BUMP!
aftershock
Master Don Juan
I've no idea how many I'm on. Must be over 50 already. Too hard to keep track though.
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
LiveStrong
Don Juan
.....im down like a clown charlie brown
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i don't even keep track anymore..this is a very interesting little journel you have going on here. i don't know about you but it becomes friggin' boring after a while and i don't even want to approach anymore,it's like the girls laugh on cue exactly when i expect them to and IOI's are oh soo predictable now.I may get into it again -justt the other day i did about 13 cold approaches averaging between 15-60 minutes each,all conversations with emphasis on DHV stories and personality conveying routines ( i am practicing MM) i don't even get numbers anymore because i NEVER call them anyways and i can see it in them like they are expecting me to ask them out right there (yeah right) ... if you're still nervous and a little anxious right before you approach..be happy because it's still exciting, once it becomes routine ...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.