So.. does approaching a girl you've approached before count? More importantly, how do you deal with it gracefully when you've forgotten you've approached this girl b/c you never remembered her face amongst the 100's you've talked to?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Challenge 2006: The Year Of Approaching!
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
No. I think I made that quite obvious.
I don't understand the question.
Lhemmix
Don Juan
I'm in
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
I'm in on this.
Just got out from a 3 year LTR.
I forgot how it is to approach. Though I have already approached about 5 girls since the break-up ( this was about 6 months ago).
I live in a small city, so I don't think I can get the 1000.
But I'll do these approaches anyway.
Maybe I'll just start now. Instead of waiting for next year.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I did 2 today at the bus stop.
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
The first was a HB7.5 who I smiled and made eye contact with as I walked towards the bus stop. I guess I can't really take all the credit for this because she came up to me.
She gave me her bus slip because she had found a ride (from her boyfriend) to her destination. I took the opportunity to get a conversation going and it lasted for about 10 mins.
what's really ironic is that I've seen her before. I wanted to approach her last week but chickened out, and that was in a completely different city.
Anyway, the second was an HB5 latino girl. She wasn't very good at speaking english,
Futuristic
Don Juan
Sounds cool man. Count me in. I'll be back to college mid january so I'll probably start then.
WrEcKLeSS2000
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Count me in as well, I've been slacking for so long but I think this is the motivation I need to get back in the game.
Dont they say that you shouldnt put women as your main intrest in life? Make sure your doing things that dont involve women, make sure you have a life outside women!
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
10 000 approaches and all these year of approaching things, dont really follow this "rule" do they?
Malachi
Don Juan
Well i can't do 3 a day for reasons....but i'll make it so i approach every op.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
scorpio king
Don Juan
BUMP!
aftershock
Master Don Juan
I've no idea how many I'm on. Must be over 50 already. Too hard to keep track though.
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
Funny I didn't think anyone would go through with it...
LiveStrong
Don Juan
.....im down like a clown charlie brown
organizedconfusion
Master Don Juan
i don't even keep track anymore..this is a very interesting little journel you have going on here. i don't know about you but it becomes friggin' boring after a while and i don't even want to approach anymore,it's like the girls laugh on cue exactly when i expect them to and IOI's are oh soo predictable now.I may get into it again -justt the other day i did about 13 cold approaches averaging between 15-60 minutes each,all conversations with emphasis on DHV stories and personality conveying routines ( i am practicing MM) i don't even get numbers anymore because i NEVER call them anyways and i can see it in them like they are expecting me to ask them out right there (yeah right) ... if you're still nervous and a little anxious right before you approach..be happy because it's still exciting, once it becomes routine ...
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.