"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Caught girlfriend cheating just now.

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Hey guys, ok so I just caught my girlfriend cheating. Fake facebook account which she has me blocked. So I made a different account to confirm this. I'm collecting my things soon and I wrote her a poem for when I walk out the door, it says. Roses are red, my love is dead, now watch me close out door, you cheating w.h.o.r.e. And just lots of lol's written all over it. She went on a trip to see her best friend but I have endless amount of realistic evidence to prove she was being unfaithful. Any thoughts how I should proceed now when I give her the poem? Lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Go NC and delete her off all social media. Was this a result of you still being thr "nice guy"?
 

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Hey guys, ok so I just caught my girlfriend cheating. Fake facebook account which she has me blocked. So I made a different account to confirm this. I'm collecting my things soon and I wrote her a poem for when I walk out the door, it says. Roses are red, my love is dead, now watch me close out door, you cheating w.h.o.r.e. And just lots of lol's written all over it. She went on a trip to see her best friend but I have endless amount of realistic evidence to prove she was being unfaithful. Any thoughts how I should proceed now when I give her the poem? Lol
NOOOOO!!! Don't leave her a poem. if you really want to hit her where it hurts the most, its just to disappear without a trace, almost like you never existed. I know how it feels man, I went through similar and my mistake was trying to do too much but in a roaring sea of emotions its hard to collect yourself. Im telling you, just disappear.
 

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NOOOOO!!! Don't leave her a poem. if you really want to hit her where it hurts the most, its just to disappear without a trace, almost like you never existed. I know how it feels man, I went through similar and my mistake was trying to do too much but in a roaring sea of emotions its hard to collect yourself. Im telling you, just disappear.
In2thegame I love this!! I'm gonna do it. Does it really hurt them that much? Could you explain how?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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read sex at dawn and you will be well on you're way to recovery.

never be jealous or hurt over a female again (;

sound good? read it!
 

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@samspade so even though she is cheating and made a new facebook adding everyone but me indifference is the best weapon? P.s her best friend even added me on facebook now why would her friend add me if she was cheating or planning on dumping me?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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@samspade so even though she is cheating and made a new facebook adding everyone but me indifference is the best weapon? P.s her best friend even added me on facebook now why would her friend add me if she was cheating or planning on dumping me?
Are you sure she's cheating on you? Making a separate FB profile is super sketchy but in court I believe they would call that "circumstantial evidence." Not that this is a court of law, but do you have any hard proof?
 

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@foolyoufool yeah I have lots of evidence mainly behavioral things and catching her on the phone to someone and then she walks down the road to talk lol.. but if she made a separate facebook account and blocked me tells me she has cheated and is about to dump me lol.. but why did her best friend add me if that was the case?
 

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Wait, is this the girl in your previous thread (last year) where you already dumped her ?
 

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NOOOOO!!! Don't leave her a poem. if you really want to hit her where it hurts the most, its just to disappear without a trace, almost like you never existed. I know how it feels man, I went through similar and my mistake was trying to do too much but in a roaring sea of emotions its hard to collect yourself. Im telling you, just disappear.
This.
How does ghosting a gurlfriend a cheating one at that. Hurt them?
you have no idea. Makes them take a hard look at their own actions and they feel deep loss and resentment towards the self. Imagine if you cheated and without a trace she went ghost in you and you never had a reason... intense right?

Also if you left a poem it gives her a reason to hold that against you, and use that piece to justify her behaviour because it’s revealing of your ‘dark side’. Also shows you’re hurt. Ghosting and NC shows you know your value.
How long did you two date?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wait a minute...you are speculating all of this because she has a second facebook account? Have you caught her doing anything? Seems like a major jump to go from a second facebook account to her cheating on you unless you have more evidence...almost seems like you are projecting your self worth or lack there of onto the situation.
 

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Having a second Facebook account where your bf is not on it is pretty damn strong proof something very shady is going on.

Go complete radio silence.. or just continue to bang her while you look for other chicks.
 

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Having a second Facebook account where your bf is not on it is pretty damn strong proof something very shady is going on.

Go complete radio silence.. or just continue to bang her while you look for other chicks.
@Music_czar I know right super shady! But the thing is if she was planning on dumping me why the hell would her best friend add me?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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