"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Can you guys give me examples of good flirting?
- Thread starter nando
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
From what women tell me, not too many will see that as interest beyond "just pals." Unless there's something that stokes the sexual tension furnace, you could end up in the LJBF zone.Bible_Belt said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
crashbutnotburn
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Finish your transaction.
Leave the store.
Come back in. Go up to the girl at the counter who smiled at you and tell her you forgot something.
"What did you forget?" she'll ask.
"I forgot to ask what you're doing tonight. I'm going to. . . ."
And then say whatever, just make sure you HAVE something that you're doing. Not a movie, either. Anything else. An art opening, a band, your kid brother's karate exhibition, a high school football game, ANYTHING.
I have used this. I still use this. It works.
Further:
Your first move every morning, even before you check your email, should be to check the What's Happening section of the local papers and find something fun, interesting, and cheap to do that night. That way, should you meet a girl at coffee that morning, you can ask her to go do something fun and interesting with you in the evening. And then if you don't meet a girl to do something with, you can go do that fun, interesting, cheap thing and maybe you'll meet a girl there. See how this works?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What type of store, what's happening around you, what does she look like, is she wearing anything interesting, is she wearing a name tag, did she ring up anything strange for the person ahead of you, are you buying anything strange? C'mon, you've got to notice something interesting to talk about.nando said:
I've a tip that has really started to change things for me. Just be the man, treat them like chrildren. A women told me this the other day that women love to be treated (talked to) like little girls! They like to laugh.nando said:
eg If a girl likes something tease her that shes no good and should go back to playing with her dolls!
Don't be serious all the time but be serious the odd time. Be confident too and spin plates! Have more than 1 on the go! This helps with oneitis.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.