"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Can you guys give me examples of good flirting?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
From what women tell me, not too many will see that as interest beyond "just pals." Unless there's something that stokes the sexual tension furnace, you could end up in the LJBF zone.Bible_Belt said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
crashbutnotburn
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Finish your transaction.
Leave the store.
Come back in. Go up to the girl at the counter who smiled at you and tell her you forgot something.
"What did you forget?" she'll ask.
"I forgot to ask what you're doing tonight. I'm going to. . . ."
And then say whatever, just make sure you HAVE something that you're doing. Not a movie, either. Anything else. An art opening, a band, your kid brother's karate exhibition, a high school football game, ANYTHING.
I have used this. I still use this. It works.
Further:
Your first move every morning, even before you check your email, should be to check the What's Happening section of the local papers and find something fun, interesting, and cheap to do that night. That way, should you meet a girl at coffee that morning, you can ask her to go do something fun and interesting with you in the evening. And then if you don't meet a girl to do something with, you can go do that fun, interesting, cheap thing and maybe you'll meet a girl there. See how this works?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What type of store, what's happening around you, what does she look like, is she wearing anything interesting, is she wearing a name tag, did she ring up anything strange for the person ahead of you, are you buying anything strange? C'mon, you've got to notice something interesting to talk about.nando said:
I've a tip that has really started to change things for me. Just be the man, treat them like chrildren. A women told me this the other day that women love to be treated (talked to) like little girls! They like to laugh.nando said:
eg If a girl likes something tease her that shes no good and should go back to playing with her dolls!
Don't be serious all the time but be serious the odd time. Be confident too and spin plates! Have more than 1 on the go! This helps with oneitis.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.