"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Can you guys give me examples of good flirting?
- Thread starter nando
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
From what women tell me, not too many will see that as interest beyond "just pals." Unless there's something that stokes the sexual tension furnace, you could end up in the LJBF zone.Bible_Belt said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
crashbutnotburn
Don Juan
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Finish your transaction.
Leave the store.
Come back in. Go up to the girl at the counter who smiled at you and tell her you forgot something.
"What did you forget?" she'll ask.
"I forgot to ask what you're doing tonight. I'm going to. . . ."
And then say whatever, just make sure you HAVE something that you're doing. Not a movie, either. Anything else. An art opening, a band, your kid brother's karate exhibition, a high school football game, ANYTHING.
I have used this. I still use this. It works.
Further:
Your first move every morning, even before you check your email, should be to check the What's Happening section of the local papers and find something fun, interesting, and cheap to do that night. That way, should you meet a girl at coffee that morning, you can ask her to go do something fun and interesting with you in the evening. And then if you don't meet a girl to do something with, you can go do that fun, interesting, cheap thing and maybe you'll meet a girl there. See how this works?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What type of store, what's happening around you, what does she look like, is she wearing anything interesting, is she wearing a name tag, did she ring up anything strange for the person ahead of you, are you buying anything strange? C'mon, you've got to notice something interesting to talk about.nando said:
I've a tip that has really started to change things for me. Just be the man, treat them like chrildren. A women told me this the other day that women love to be treated (talked to) like little girls! They like to laugh.nando said:
eg If a girl likes something tease her that shes no good and should go back to playing with her dolls!
Don't be serious all the time but be serious the odd time. Be confident too and spin plates! Have more than 1 on the go! This helps with oneitis.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.