MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lol, I don't think you get it. Those "old farts" are looking for easy, humble, young puzzy. Once that same puzzy hits American soil unmarried, the humble and easiness goes down the drain real quick!bmxcetera said:If you really want them bad enough, take a trip to Spartanburg, SC. There were plenty of Cambodian females as I recall. Citizenship already attained.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
hope is a dangerous thing...men may actually wake up and act on itevan12 said:may be it is pressure from US to close more doors on their men
Yeah OK coming from someone in AMSTERDAMHoneyHitter said:Lol, I don't think you get it. Those "old farts" are looking for easy, humble, young puzzy. Once that same puzzy hits American soil unmarried, the humble and easiness goes down the drain real quick!
There's a huge difference between a wealthy old fart and a poor old fart. Sometimes the difference is only a matter of location.
Cool I'm probably getting relocated to BMW Spartanburg, so I'm gonna check it out next yearbmxcetera said:If you really want them bad enough, take a trip to Spartanburg, SC. There were plenty of Cambodian females as I recall. Citizenship already attained.
Lol, been living here since my late teens dude.bmxcetera said:Yeah OK coming from someone in AMSTERDAM
And you're still making dumbas$ blanket statements thinking that they also apply to southeastern Asians migrating into western society. Did you catch on to the fact that it referenced the rough pasts that they experienced as a whole in Cambodia and Vietnam? I've never had one of these SE Asian women treat me with disrespect here, in fact they are some of the friendliest individuals I've dealt with, ever. Having a piss-poor command of the English language, wearing rags to high school/community college and still living in squalid conditions in the U.S. barely made them seem like wannabe Prima Donnas to me...and I've lived here far longer than fifteen years, in four major U.S. cities and have traveled to half the states and counting. Not to mention I've grown up in a family that came to this country from SE Asia. For fvck's sake, the Hmong people that migrated to NC after the Vietnam Conflict never bothered learning English and shafted their own potential growth as a result.HoneyHitter said:Lol, been living here since my late teens dude.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.