SilkiSmooth
Don Juan
Which books do you recommend on meeting, attracting, maintaining girls?.... Also, what are the differences in these books (i.e. DJ v. PUA, meeting v. maintaining a relationship, etc)? Thx, fellas.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I have to get this book asap. Read another article in todays Sunday newspaper - Neil was over here in Ireland for an interview with the writer. There was also an extract where 'Papa' picked up Paris Hilton's digits.The Game
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
In my opinion that book is good but not useful. I stoped reading at page 60 or something like that.Originally posted by Sp1kez
I've read most of "The art of seduction" by Robert Greene, it is a really good book, it has a lot of similarities to the DJ bible but in different terms and context, very good book.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Originally posted by whyshy
In my opinion that book is good but not useful. I stoped reading at page 60 or something like that.
I agree. It's not a guide on how to go from AFC to DJ, but it does enable those of us who are students of seduction reach a new level of skill and gives us deeper understanding of the art.Originally posted by SeldomSeen
you're missing out on so much then if you dont finish reading the Art of Seduction
That book can be used in so many ways and in so many situations that its a shame that any person aspiring to be a DJ would dismiss it. Enchanting is the best way to describe it