SilkiSmooth
Don Juan
Which books do you recommend on meeting, attracting, maintaining girls?.... Also, what are the differences in these books (i.e. DJ v. PUA, meeting v. maintaining a relationship, etc)? Thx, fellas.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I have to get this book asap. Read another article in todays Sunday newspaper - Neil was over here in Ireland for an interview with the writer. There was also an extract where 'Papa' picked up Paris Hilton's digits.The Game
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
In my opinion that book is good but not useful. I stoped reading at page 60 or something like that.Originally posted by Sp1kez
I've read most of "The art of seduction" by Robert Greene, it is a really good book, it has a lot of similarities to the DJ bible but in different terms and context, very good book.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by whyshy
In my opinion that book is good but not useful. I stoped reading at page 60 or something like that.
I agree. It's not a guide on how to go from AFC to DJ, but it does enable those of us who are students of seduction reach a new level of skill and gives us deeper understanding of the art.Originally posted by SeldomSeen
you're missing out on so much then if you dont finish reading the Art of Seduction
That book can be used in so many ways and in so many situations that its a shame that any person aspiring to be a DJ would dismiss it. Enchanting is the best way to describe it