SilkiSmooth
Don Juan
Which books do you recommend on meeting, attracting, maintaining girls?.... Also, what are the differences in these books (i.e. DJ v. PUA, meeting v. maintaining a relationship, etc)? Thx, fellas.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I have to get this book asap. Read another article in todays Sunday newspaper - Neil was over here in Ireland for an interview with the writer. There was also an extract where 'Papa' picked up Paris Hilton's digits.The Game
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
In my opinion that book is good but not useful. I stoped reading at page 60 or something like that.Originally posted by Sp1kez
I've read most of "The art of seduction" by Robert Greene, it is a really good book, it has a lot of similarities to the DJ bible but in different terms and context, very good book.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by whyshy
In my opinion that book is good but not useful. I stoped reading at page 60 or something like that.
I agree. It's not a guide on how to go from AFC to DJ, but it does enable those of us who are students of seduction reach a new level of skill and gives us deeper understanding of the art.Originally posted by SeldomSeen
you're missing out on so much then if you dont finish reading the Art of Seduction
That book can be used in so many ways and in so many situations that its a shame that any person aspiring to be a DJ would dismiss it. Enchanting is the best way to describe it