"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
BMW vs Mercedes
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Anyways, look at everything before you buy this car.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
I ended up going with an Audi A4 Convertible and have never had a single problem with it (around 46,000 miles on it now). Knock on wood.
Service costs are going to be very high for any german vehicle. Even VW's (also have a Jetta turbo) have high part costs.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Captain Harlock
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Both are great cars but i prefer Mercedes.
amoka
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Captain Harlock
Senior Don Juan
Don't bother dude. I see it all the time. People always love to buy sh*t they can't afford (to maintain even) and the b*tch about it afterwards. It's someone else's fault. It's the car company for building an expensive to maintain vehicle, its the credit union for the high loan cost, its the employer for not giving enough money, its the people who told about the vehicle and how they didn't warn... etc.Captain Harlock said:
Although more reliable and cheaper to maintain even a Japanese car seems unaffordable.
CGE333
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Captain Harlock
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'not a good idea' is probably a huge understatement. The thing is going to drain your money like no woman could. For 2k I'd look for a small reliable car. Sure, maybe you look like an idiot, but at least it's a better choice if you don't earn that much money. Don't forget insurance and taxes will also be higher for a Merc not to mention fuel consumption.amoka said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
amoka
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You don't know me and certainly have not met me before. It is completely inappropriate of you to be calling some you've never met an "idiot". I do not do web battle; hence, do not wish to discuss this matter any further and hope you don't repeat this sort of comment with anybody either here or all other internet forums.Captain Harlock said:
He never called you an idiot. He said that if you were to drive an older honda or toyota, you might look like an idiot (due to the fact that it is not classy nor a looker). Don't be so quick to jump at people, and try to actually read the entire paragraph before responding.amoka said:
Oh, and PS. I am now calling you an idiot.
Dude, he's pretty spot on. Ever hear the phrase don't buy sh*t you can't afford? You can't afford the car. There's more to vehicles than the initial cost. I can't believe I have to tell you this. Have you even driven or owned a car before?amoka said:
Do you know how much a freaking simple CV joint costs for a vehicle like this? Look up a couple of parts, then you'll also feel like an idiot besides looking like one.
amoka
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Actually, I do know the cost of CV joint for this vehicle is much LESS than the same CV joint for my Honda accord and civic. To clarify things, I wanted to buy these cars at the stated price so that I maybe able to work on them myself in the event of problems.Alle_Gory said:
Or you can simply buy a car that's not been beaten into the ground, and this means less repairs and less money and time spent just making sure its drivable.amoka said:
The cars look nice, they might even feel nice but the cost is MASSIVE to keep these things on the road. Buying a newer car means that it will run longer before you repair the damn thing. Unless you want to spend all your time in the garage pumping money and time to keep the car on life support.
Good luck dude. Looks like you're going to learn the hard way.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.