She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nobody cares.EA Gold said:I'm getting a Bmw 650i
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Are you kidding me?amoka said:I do not want anything fancy cause I don't have any money. and I do not want to finance anything. I currently have about 2 grand and want to use it to either purchase some used mercedes or BMWs. I already have a deal with some guy for 1800 mercedes C280 1997. I drove the vehicle few days ago and it seems pretty great. I am waiting on my body who is good with vehicles to come check it out for me tomorrow. If things go well, I will get tomorrow, thus if he thinks it is a good deal. Else, I will have to wait to get the BMW 741 which now clocks at 5500.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Don't bother dude. I see it all the time. People always love to buy sh*t they can't afford (to maintain even) and the b*tch about it afterwards. It's someone else's fault. It's the car company for building an expensive to maintain vehicle, its the credit union for the high loan cost, its the employer for not giving enough money, its the people who told about the vehicle and how they didn't warn... etc.Captain Harlock said:You don't have much money but you do want to buy a 7-series?
No. Is it not a good idea to purchase a used mercedes at that price?Alle_Gory said:Are you kidding me?
'not a good idea' is probably a huge understatement. The thing is going to drain your money like no woman could. For 2k I'd look for a small reliable car. Sure, maybe you look like an idiot, but at least it's a better choice if you don't earn that much money. Don't forget insurance and taxes will also be higher for a Merc not to mention fuel consumption.amoka said:No. Is it not a good idea to purchase a used mercedes at that price?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You don't know me and certainly have not met me before. It is completely inappropriate of you to be calling some you've never met an "idiot". I do not do web battle; hence, do not wish to discuss this matter any further and hope you don't repeat this sort of comment with anybody either here or all other internet forums.Captain Harlock said:maybe you look like an idiot
He never called you an idiot. He said that if you were to drive an older honda or toyota, you might look like an idiot (due to the fact that it is not classy nor a looker). Don't be so quick to jump at people, and try to actually read the entire paragraph before responding.amoka said:Thank you all, including Captain, for their suggestions.
You don't know me and certainly have not met me before. It is completely inappropriate of you to be calling some you've never met an "idiot". I do not do web battle; hence, do not wish to discuss this matter any further and hope you don't repeat this sort of comment with anybody either here or all other internet forums.
Dude, he's pretty spot on. Ever hear the phrase don't buy sh*t you can't afford? You can't afford the car. There's more to vehicles than the initial cost. I can't believe I have to tell you this. Have you even driven or owned a car before?amoka said:You don't know me and certainly have not met me before. It is completely inappropriate of you to be calling some you've never met an "idiot". I do not do web battle; hence, do not wish to discuss this matter any further and hope you don't repeat this sort of comment with anybody either here or all other internet forums.
Actually, I do know the cost of CV joint for this vehicle is much LESS than the same CV joint for my Honda accord and civic. To clarify things, I wanted to buy these cars at the stated price so that I maybe able to work on them myself in the event of problems.Alle_Gory said:Dude, he's pretty spot on. Ever hear the phrase don't buy sh*t you can't afford? You can't afford the car. There's more to vehicles than the initial cost. I can't believe I have to tell you this. Have you even driven or owned a car before?
Do you know how much a freaking simple CV joint costs for a vehicle like this? Look up a couple of parts, then you'll also feel like an idiot besides looking like one.
Or you can simply buy a car that's not been beaten into the ground, and this means less repairs and less money and time spent just making sure its drivable.amoka said:Actually, I do know the cost of CV joint for this vehicle is much LESS than the same CV joint for my Honda accord and civic. To clarify things, I wanted to buy these cars at the stated price so that I maybe able to work on them myself in the event of problems.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.