"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Blondes vs brunettes, do you do better with one than the other?

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've had luck with both, but there just aren't that many blondes out there. So statistically I have less luck with blondes
 

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I think guys internalize their wins/losses with women and it makes them approach women with different appearances differently.

I think if a guy went to a brothel and had a transaction with a woman who was the type he "had trouble with" he would do better with that type afterwards from positive reinforcement.

Lost my V Card to a tall Blonde, married a blonde, Dated more blondes. Get more IOI's from blondes.
 

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For me it has always been a steady stream of blonds. I never knew why, except to say I find them more feminine in general, and I love feminine.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I’m actually more attracted to brunettes by simple looks but I seem to do much better with blondes. I’m my area they are the friendliest of the women for the most part. Blondes, then reds, then brunettes. Blondes much More personable. I have a theory as to why but no time to share now. Gotta run to work so maybe later.
 

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I’m actually more attracted to brunettes by simple looks but I seem to do much better with blondes. I’m my area they are the friendliest of the women for the most part. Blondes, then reds, then brunettes. Blondes much More personable. I have a theory as to why but no time to share now. Gotta run to work so maybe later.
I'd like to hear your theory when you have more time.
 

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Blonde white women IMO typically don't date outside their race. Unless it's a star athlete. I am not a white male however have hooked up with some but definitely do better with brunettes. I also believe brunettes are naturally more attractive. If you really look, a lot of blonde women aren't that good looking. The gold hair masks a lot of their unattractive features.
 

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I've always tended to do better with blondes, but looking at the responses here maybe it's not me after all, maybe blondes are just more receptive period.

I've gone through phases where I've been most attracted to either blondes, brunettes, or redheads. Currently I would rank them first redheads, then brunettes, then blondes. But ultimately hair color doesn't matter of course, as long as the girl is attractive.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd like to hear your theory when you have more time.
My theory is that blondes tend to be the stereotypical ‘hot babes’ that get all the attention. So they tend to be more secure with themselves and thus less prone to think they must compensate by being b!Tchy. I find them much easier to approach and more personable. I think brunettes are more prone to being insecure cuz as a collective they don’t get the attention blondes do, so they act accordingly. The redheads fall somewhere in the middle. There are the wild feisty stereotypical reds. Then there are the stereotypical ugly ones too. These are just my opinions and observations.
 

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I've always tended to do better with blondes, but looking at the responses here maybe it's not me after all, maybe blondes are just more receptive period.
This is it. I would say that a bottle blonde is going to be more self-conscious, and therefore not have the b!tch shield going. I mean look how getting blonde hair made this gal a vixen, making her AFOG Sofia Loren:

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Blondes tend to be more feminine. They also have that “glow” that brunettes lack. I love all women as they are literally so fvcking cute it makes my heart ache (i know but yo. Look at them truly and they are AWESOME).
Since I’m Asian blondes are a little hesitant to date me as its very outside there comfort zone but once they see I’m cool and non needy they like me.

Blondes tend to be more feminine like I said so put that in your “game” so to speak next time you interact with them I.e hold space and be there. Let her do the talking and ****
Actually from my experience it seems like blondes are very open to going interracial for Asians and minorities in general.

White women with dark hair and tanned skin are the most against it if they are hot because they feel somewhat insecure about how white they are.
 

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Blonde white women IMO typically don't date outside their race. Unless it's a star athlete. I am not a white male however have hooked up with some but definitely do better with brunettes. I also believe brunettes are naturally more attractive. If you really look, a lot of blonde women aren't that good looking. The gold hair masks a lot of their unattractive features.
This has not been my experience, from what I have seen with hot white girls

1. Redheads LOVE minorities and darker guys

2. Blondes are very much into minorities who are cool and hot

3. Brunettes who are pale and really white looking will go for minorities

4. Tanned brunettes/Mediterranean/darker looking girls who are white seem to be thirsty for the palest white guys
 

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My theory is that blondes tend to be the stereotypical ‘hot babes’ that get all the attention. So they tend to be more secure with themselves and thus less prone to think they must compensate by being b!Tchy. I find them much easier to approach and more personable. I think brunettes are more prone to being insecure cuz as a collective they don’t get the attention blondes do, so they act accordingly. The redheads fall somewhere in the middle. There are the wild feisty stereotypical reds. Then there are the stereotypical ugly ones too. These are just my opinions and observations.
I'll add to your theory, I think brunettes feel like they have more to prove and this becomes especially true if that brunette is more Italian, Jewish, or any of the tanned ethnicities of white. Due to this, I think they are more harsh and cut-throat, often trying to get back at the world.

I have had a great experience with all American brunette white girls, the type who have blonde sisters and are white as hell. My worst experiences have been with tanned brunettes and some of the ones who look slightly exotic, they seem to really hate minorities and are borderline Hitler-like in how they see beauty.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Not all brunettes are bad

If she is of a more Scandinavian or Northern European background she is usually dope. The Anglos and Northern Europeans produce some stunning brunettes, ditto for Eastern Europeans too.

Mediterranean women on the other hand are trash.
 
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