She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I believe he is, lets make a try and see to which degree.
ofc I dont, who does nowadays? better let them blow some steam on them so they will be more relaxed with us, can u blame us?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Finally the admission of what we could infer from pages of deflection and obfuscation. You are perfectly fine with the way police abuse and kill black people.
So I wrote "I believe he is a retarded, lets make a try" than typed that message to trigger you that despite it being overly sarcastic became real in your head.
I agree with the truthfulness of your statement. It comes off as providing a rationale for why the police are particularly abusive towards black people. We can agree on that.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I recall a black guy from this forum not sure if backbreaker, solomon or someone else he basically said that the black community is his own worst enemy cause they behave like crabs in a bucket where if any of them tries to get out the others pull him down back.
Police brutality is just one side of the thing, and its not always link to racism,
You just made me remember something about Obama when he was running for president. The black community at one point was very vocal that he wasn't "black" enough that since his mother was white and father an immigrant that he couldn't be considered black. Some considered this nullifying his black heritage. I remember laughing so hard when they would ask him if he was "black enough"
Oh yeah its true I remember it too, quite funny for those who are against racism.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
So... it's possible to pull yourself up by your bootstraps? It's possible to become president even if you're born an underpriviledged black guy?
It's so good that we have to build walls to keep everyone from flocking to live here.
It's been cancelled.
Joking. But things that sounded ludricous a few months ago are now reality, so never say never.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
^^^ Doesn't understand the difference between micro vs. macro.
Barack Obama supported Black Lives Matter as President and their commitment to end police violence towards black people. Do you?Or is it - as social justice lunatics like to say when they encounter data that goes against their cult narrative - just anecdotal evidence.
I've experienced racism. But I'm not some delicate snowflake victim who goes crying to Big Brother for protection, and neither was Obama.
Not anymore. It's the other way around. They don't want us infecting their countries with COVID-19.
Is this a serious question?
Micro vs. Macro.
This is truly entertaining.
How many mental / wellness checks have resulted in police killing white vs non-whites in Canada to date so far this year?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.