"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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blast from the past

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so a girl i made a conscious decision to cut off a long time ago for failure of showing mutual interest in my needs sends me an IM on aim this morning, convo goes like this.

her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hang wit her.
Have a good time with her.
Kino.
Kiss her.

If you get that far you are in.
If you don't, you'll know the answer to your questions
:)
 
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does a situation like this need to be treated as if it were a new girl? or do you continue not showing interest until she pulls out all the stops?
 
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cNfny said:
her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
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She might have been offended at the way you cut her off! At least you showed shes not that important to you so she got no ego boost!
 
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What a great opportunity. Be smooth and try to do everything BCOMusic said.

I wish I had the chance to run into some of the girls I blew my chances with back when I was really AFC.

Anyways have fun and make some moves. She contacted you for a reason.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
 
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cNfny said:
So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
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wait for her to contact, so you'll know she's keener ?
 
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Yeah you handled that well, just keep that same thing up. You have nothing to lose.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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hmm.. not sure if i should make the next contact, as far as she's concerned i've just been really busy and my contact cut off wasn't a personal target towards her.
 
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No don't wait for her to contact you - she's already approached you and it's very likely she won't come to you again, especially when you logged off like that. As the male you should jump on the opportunity and take action.
Find out when this film festival is and give her a call.
 
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