"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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blast from the past

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so a girl i made a conscious decision to cut off a long time ago for failure of showing mutual interest in my needs sends me an IM on aim this morning, convo goes like this.

her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hang wit her.
Have a good time with her.
Kino.
Kiss her.

If you get that far you are in.
If you don't, you'll know the answer to your questions
:)
 
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does a situation like this need to be treated as if it were a new girl? or do you continue not showing interest until she pulls out all the stops?
 
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cNfny said:
her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
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She might have been offended at the way you cut her off! At least you showed shes not that important to you so she got no ego boost!
 
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What a great opportunity. Be smooth and try to do everything BCOMusic said.

I wish I had the chance to run into some of the girls I blew my chances with back when I was really AFC.

Anyways have fun and make some moves. She contacted you for a reason.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
 
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cNfny said:
So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
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wait for her to contact, so you'll know she's keener ?
 
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Yeah you handled that well, just keep that same thing up. You have nothing to lose.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hmm.. not sure if i should make the next contact, as far as she's concerned i've just been really busy and my contact cut off wasn't a personal target towards her.
 
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No don't wait for her to contact you - she's already approached you and it's very likely she won't come to you again, especially when you logged off like that. As the male you should jump on the opportunity and take action.
Find out when this film festival is and give her a call.
 
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