"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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blast from the past

cNfny

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so a girl i made a conscious decision to cut off a long time ago for failure of showing mutual interest in my needs sends me an IM on aim this morning, convo goes like this.

her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hang wit her.
Have a good time with her.
Kino.
Kiss her.

If you get that far you are in.
If you don't, you'll know the answer to your questions
:)
 

cNfny

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does a situation like this need to be treated as if it were a new girl? or do you continue not showing interest until she pulls out all the stops?
 

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cNfny said:
her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
She might have been offended at the way you cut her off! At least you showed shes not that important to you so she got no ego boost!
 

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What a great opportunity. Be smooth and try to do everything BCOMusic said.

I wish I had the chance to run into some of the girls I blew my chances with back when I was really AFC.

Anyways have fun and make some moves. She contacted you for a reason.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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cNfny

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So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
 

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cNfny said:
So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
wait for her to contact, so you'll know she's keener ?
 

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Yeah you handled that well, just keep that same thing up. You have nothing to lose.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cNfny

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hmm.. not sure if i should make the next contact, as far as she's concerned i've just been really busy and my contact cut off wasn't a personal target towards her.
 

smooth guy

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No don't wait for her to contact you - she's already approached you and it's very likely she won't come to you again, especially when you logged off like that. As the male you should jump on the opportunity and take action.
Find out when this film festival is and give her a call.
 
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