"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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blast from the past

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so a girl i made a conscious decision to cut off a long time ago for failure of showing mutual interest in my needs sends me an IM on aim this morning, convo goes like this.

her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hang wit her.
Have a good time with her.
Kino.
Kiss her.

If you get that far you are in.
If you don't, you'll know the answer to your questions
:)
 

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does a situation like this need to be treated as if it were a new girl? or do you continue not showing interest until she pulls out all the stops?
 

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cNfny said:
her - hey stranger
me - (after 5 min) hey whats up
her - not muuch, you?
me - not much
(long pause)
her - what are you doing?
me - just talking to someone really quick, laying in bed
me - no dirty thoughts please
her - oh i was goin to ask you to make an errand run with me, but forgot you sleep until midday
me - oh stop, you know you can't forget anything about me
her - harhar, do you know when that film festival is?
me - why want to go with me so you can look cute? is it soon?
her - dont know, thats why i asked
me - i dont know actually
me - alright gotta go, peace

handled well? i'm almost confused on how to approach this if she contacts me again. whats best way to determine if she's looking for an ego boost or if she's interested?
She might have been offended at the way you cut her off! At least you showed shes not that important to you so she got no ego boost!
 

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What a great opportunity. Be smooth and try to do everything BCOMusic said.

I wish I had the chance to run into some of the girls I blew my chances with back when I was really AFC.

Anyways have fun and make some moves. She contacted you for a reason.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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cNfny

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So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
 

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cNfny said:
So should I wait for her to contact again or should I call and set something up?
wait for her to contact, so you'll know she's keener ?
 

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Yeah you handled that well, just keep that same thing up. You have nothing to lose.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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cNfny

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hmm.. not sure if i should make the next contact, as far as she's concerned i've just been really busy and my contact cut off wasn't a personal target towards her.
 

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No don't wait for her to contact you - she's already approached you and it's very likely she won't come to you again, especially when you logged off like that. As the male you should jump on the opportunity and take action.
Find out when this film festival is and give her a call.
 
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