Blackdragon5095
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Thanks bro. That was hard for me man. Those girls rejected me cold. Everytime I think about it. It makes me shake inside. But I know I will be stronger because of it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Way to go!! my 1st one was the mall approach...i walked in with $6.00Blackdragon5095 said:May 16,2006
Today wasn't a bad day, I decide to go to the mall. I walk in and I'm shaking in my boots. ( I have timberland boots ) I was so nerves, I went in by myself and with about $20.00 . Fear was pushing me away from appoarching. I told myself again ( I have to apporach ). At least 1 apporach. If I don't apporch then how can I learn ?? I saw 2 girls. 1 fat and other 1 kinda cute ( or so I though ). So I go to apporach.
Me: ( I was nevres as hell ) Hey um I got a question
The girls: Look at each other giving me the "your a loser look" and ketp walking.
Me: ( I won't give up easy )
Me: um what school you go to ?
Uglygirl: ( mumbles something and ketps walking )
Fatgirl: ( ketps walking )
Me: Huh I can't hear you ?
uglygirl: ( mumbles something again )
I just give up from their. They rejected me from the start. I was sweating like hell and I was so nevres to be in the mall alone. I saw this 1 girl and she smiled and I said hi and so did she. ( I'm not gonna count that appoarch).
After this apporach I went out the mall and sat in my car. Feeling like someone hit me with a whip. Man that was a nasty cold shoulder I got. But from pain I will grow stronger.
Deep Thinking:
Oh ok Oh ok. So it wasn't as easy as I though to be in the mall and too apporach in the mall. What I will do is start eatting in the mall. So are my plan of breaking stupid fears.
1. Go to the mall more often alone
2. Eat at the mall ( I'll get more used to it )
3. Gain self-control
4. Get used to talking to people in the mall
27/100
I'm gonna change it up. Try something new.Scotty Pimpin said:Jyeah thats all Cool Blackdragon,
Now try something A LIL different and see how it works.
instead of asking females things,try TELLING THEM what to do, but in a nice way.Its called Auto Suggestion, it happens all the time everyday,
So, Instead of asking to ask a quetsion, you can just ask it, but before that
Just act like you are...The Police, and say,
"Hey Come Here for a second,"
"Whats your name?" Tell them yours then say "nice meeting You" and walk away.
No Phone #s, No email addys
No other ?s, just whats above, and practice only that, if not, you are givig yourself too much to think about and thats where you are running into problems.
Just Like Anything Else Bro
Start with Baby Steps before you Sprint.
Just Practice doing Just that.
Say.." Hey Stop"
or
"Hold Up a Second"
if they do, or WHEN they do, youll begin to see that they already are programmed to do as they are told.Try it, and keep at it.
S2thaP
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Right. You need to drive deeper and deeper rapport with your questions. Rather than just "fluffy" simple questions, try for questions that require more complicated answers.Blackdragon5095 said:Let me get this right.
Asking. Questions like ,
What you do today
Did you used to play basketball ?
What this stuff ( make up question )
Cause small talk right ?
So I need to ask questions like this ?
What would you do if you saw me stealing girl make up ?
Hey, I have a quick question. Do you travel alot
( if a girl says yes )
What the best place you been ( have the topic around their right ? )
( if she says no )
Where would you like to go and why ?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I know you probably think I shouldn't be giving advice as I just started my approach journal...but I'm not quite the beginner you may think...I've just been waaay out of practice and rusty lately. (In otherwords, this isn't psuedo, keyboard-jockey advice - I'd done close to a hundred or more approaches in the past)Blackdragon5095 said:I didn't close well ethier just way to nevers. I need more self-control...
30/100...
...I feel as if I'm losing my confidence ??
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.