Blackdragon5095
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Thanks bro. That was hard for me man. Those girls rejected me cold. Everytime I think about it. It makes me shake inside. But I know I will be stronger because of it.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Way to go!! my 1st one was the mall approach...i walked in with $6.00Blackdragon5095 said:May 16,2006
Today wasn't a bad day, I decide to go to the mall. I walk in and I'm shaking in my boots. ( I have timberland boots ) I was so nerves, I went in by myself and with about $20.00 . Fear was pushing me away from appoarching. I told myself again ( I have to apporach ). At least 1 apporach. If I don't apporch then how can I learn ?? I saw 2 girls. 1 fat and other 1 kinda cute ( or so I though ). So I go to apporach.
Me: ( I was nevres as hell ) Hey um I got a question
The girls: Look at each other giving me the "your a loser look" and ketp walking.
Me: ( I won't give up easy )
Me: um what school you go to ?
Uglygirl: ( mumbles something and ketps walking )
Fatgirl: ( ketps walking )
Me: Huh I can't hear you ?
uglygirl: ( mumbles something again )
I just give up from their. They rejected me from the start. I was sweating like hell and I was so nevres to be in the mall alone. I saw this 1 girl and she smiled and I said hi and so did she. ( I'm not gonna count that appoarch).
After this apporach I went out the mall and sat in my car. Feeling like someone hit me with a whip. Man that was a nasty cold shoulder I got. But from pain I will grow stronger.
Deep Thinking:
Oh ok Oh ok. So it wasn't as easy as I though to be in the mall and too apporach in the mall. What I will do is start eatting in the mall. So are my plan of breaking stupid fears.
1. Go to the mall more often alone
2. Eat at the mall ( I'll get more used to it )
3. Gain self-control
4. Get used to talking to people in the mall
27/100
I'm gonna change it up. Try something new.Scotty Pimpin said:Jyeah thats all Cool Blackdragon,
Now try something A LIL different and see how it works.
instead of asking females things,try TELLING THEM what to do, but in a nice way.Its called Auto Suggestion, it happens all the time everyday,
So, Instead of asking to ask a quetsion, you can just ask it, but before that
Just act like you are...The Police, and say,
"Hey Come Here for a second,"
"Whats your name?" Tell them yours then say "nice meeting You" and walk away.
No Phone #s, No email addys
No other ?s, just whats above, and practice only that, if not, you are givig yourself too much to think about and thats where you are running into problems.
Just Like Anything Else Bro
Start with Baby Steps before you Sprint.
Just Practice doing Just that.
Say.." Hey Stop"
or
"Hold Up a Second"
if they do, or WHEN they do, youll begin to see that they already are programmed to do as they are told.Try it, and keep at it.
S2thaP
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Right. You need to drive deeper and deeper rapport with your questions. Rather than just "fluffy" simple questions, try for questions that require more complicated answers.Blackdragon5095 said:Let me get this right.
Asking. Questions like ,
What you do today
Did you used to play basketball ?
What this stuff ( make up question )
Cause small talk right ?
So I need to ask questions like this ?
What would you do if you saw me stealing girl make up ?
Hey, I have a quick question. Do you travel alot
( if a girl says yes )
What the best place you been ( have the topic around their right ? )
( if she says no )
Where would you like to go and why ?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I know you probably think I shouldn't be giving advice as I just started my approach journal...but I'm not quite the beginner you may think...I've just been waaay out of practice and rusty lately. (In otherwords, this isn't psuedo, keyboard-jockey advice - I'd done close to a hundred or more approaches in the past)Blackdragon5095 said:I didn't close well ethier just way to nevers. I need more self-control...
30/100...
...I feel as if I'm losing my confidence ??
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.