Blackdragon5095
Senior Don Juan
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Thanks bro. That was hard for me man. Those girls rejected me cold. Everytime I think about it. It makes me shake inside. But I know I will be stronger because of it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Way to go!! my 1st one was the mall approach...i walked in with $6.00Blackdragon5095 said:May 16,2006
Today wasn't a bad day, I decide to go to the mall. I walk in and I'm shaking in my boots. ( I have timberland boots ) I was so nerves, I went in by myself and with about $20.00 . Fear was pushing me away from appoarching. I told myself again ( I have to apporach ). At least 1 apporach. If I don't apporch then how can I learn ?? I saw 2 girls. 1 fat and other 1 kinda cute ( or so I though ). So I go to apporach.
Me: ( I was nevres as hell ) Hey um I got a question
The girls: Look at each other giving me the "your a loser look" and ketp walking.
Me: ( I won't give up easy )
Me: um what school you go to ?
Uglygirl: ( mumbles something and ketps walking )
Fatgirl: ( ketps walking )
Me: Huh I can't hear you ?
uglygirl: ( mumbles something again )
I just give up from their. They rejected me from the start. I was sweating like hell and I was so nevres to be in the mall alone. I saw this 1 girl and she smiled and I said hi and so did she. ( I'm not gonna count that appoarch).
After this apporach I went out the mall and sat in my car. Feeling like someone hit me with a whip. Man that was a nasty cold shoulder I got. But from pain I will grow stronger.
Deep Thinking:
Oh ok Oh ok. So it wasn't as easy as I though to be in the mall and too apporach in the mall. What I will do is start eatting in the mall. So are my plan of breaking stupid fears.
1. Go to the mall more often alone
2. Eat at the mall ( I'll get more used to it )
3. Gain self-control
4. Get used to talking to people in the mall
27/100
I'm gonna change it up. Try something new.Scotty Pimpin said:Jyeah thats all Cool Blackdragon,
Now try something A LIL different and see how it works.
instead of asking females things,try TELLING THEM what to do, but in a nice way.Its called Auto Suggestion, it happens all the time everyday,
So, Instead of asking to ask a quetsion, you can just ask it, but before that
Just act like you are...The Police, and say,
"Hey Come Here for a second,"
"Whats your name?" Tell them yours then say "nice meeting You" and walk away.
No Phone #s, No email addys
No other ?s, just whats above, and practice only that, if not, you are givig yourself too much to think about and thats where you are running into problems.
Just Like Anything Else Bro
Start with Baby Steps before you Sprint.
Just Practice doing Just that.
Say.." Hey Stop"
or
"Hold Up a Second"
if they do, or WHEN they do, youll begin to see that they already are programmed to do as they are told.Try it, and keep at it.
S2thaP
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Right. You need to drive deeper and deeper rapport with your questions. Rather than just "fluffy" simple questions, try for questions that require more complicated answers.Blackdragon5095 said:Let me get this right.
Asking. Questions like ,
What you do today
Did you used to play basketball ?
What this stuff ( make up question )
Cause small talk right ?
So I need to ask questions like this ?
What would you do if you saw me stealing girl make up ?
Hey, I have a quick question. Do you travel alot
( if a girl says yes )
What the best place you been ( have the topic around their right ? )
( if she says no )
Where would you like to go and why ?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I know you probably think I shouldn't be giving advice as I just started my approach journal...but I'm not quite the beginner you may think...I've just been waaay out of practice and rusty lately. (In otherwords, this isn't psuedo, keyboard-jockey advice - I'd done close to a hundred or more approaches in the past)Blackdragon5095 said:I didn't close well ethier just way to nevers. I need more self-control...
30/100...
...I feel as if I'm losing my confidence ??
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.