RickTheToad
Moderator
@Atom Smasher , @Amante Silvestre , @Desdinova, The dude is going to go stir crazy. Consider a cooling off period for our friend, biggoal.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Not a bad guy at all, but needs a little cooling off period to reflect like bigdave. To reflect on what needs to be done in order to at least move towards the direction he needs face. It's the same threads over and over again. It's bigdave part deux.Some counterpoint. Don't get on with this guy at all, but he's not stir crazy. Basically average internet guy.
Didn't he already get banned for hitting on that proper slaggish woman around here? Just stupid imo
He doesn't learn anything, and he sure as sh1t doesn't look stuff up and try it. Who the fvck does?
He's okay.
whos the biggoal? first time hear
i took offense to that comment and i dont forgive or forgetYou aren't still salty about his mum joke surely?![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Ban is a harsh word, as he's not a bad dude at all. Just a timeout to reflect on his social life. It's the same posts day, after day, after day. Dozens of members suggest things, but he does the same thing, day after day, after day. I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.Was thinking about it. Tough one really isn't it?
My basic opinion is that anyone who hasn't looked stuff up, hasn't really tried, and is using the place as merely an outlet to vent whatever spiel. Less patience with that type.
Dont' agree with his original ban which I was around to see at all tbh hence some sympathy. Think it's what should be happening. Not seen as much since.
Generally though ime, bad members = recalcitrant, non-developing, massive unconscionable post count. Mods here do give people a big chance and good communication. Not privy to the exact communication in non-developing, but i've got it for abuse.
He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.
So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
Opinions vary my gay loving friend.What a gay thread. Put him on ignore, sweetheart.
Yes, that wa Big Dave, just in Chicago, not New York.Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.