"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Biggoal needs a bigdave cooling off period from SoSuave - JMO

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some counterpoint. Don't get on with this guy at all, but he's not stir crazy. Basically average internet guy.

Didn't he already get banned for hitting on that proper slaggish woman around here? Just stupid imo

He doesn't learn anything, and he sure as sh1t doesn't look stuff up and try it. Who the fvck does?

He's okay.
Not a bad guy at all, but needs a little cooling off period to reflect like bigdave. To reflect on what needs to be done in order to at least move towards the direction he needs face. It's the same threads over and over again. It's bigdave part deux.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Was thinking about it. Tough one really isn't it?

My basic opinion is that anyone who hasn't looked stuff up, hasn't really tried, and is using the place as merely an outlet to vent whatever spiel. Less patience with that type.

Dont' agree with his original ban which I was around to see at all tbh hence some sympathy. Think it's what should be happening. Not seen as much since.

Generally though ime, bad members = recalcitrant, non-developing, massive unconscionable post count. Mods here do give people a big chance and good communication. Not privy to the exact communication in non-developing, but i've got it for abuse.
Ban is a harsh word, as he's not a bad dude at all. Just a timeout to reflect on his social life. It's the same posts day, after day, after day. Dozens of members suggest things, but he does the same thing, day after day, after day. I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
 

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I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.

So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
 

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He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.

So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
 

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What a gay thread. Put him on ignore, sweetheart.
Opinions vary my gay loving friend.


Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
Yes, that wa Big Dave, just in Chicago, not New York.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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