"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Biggoal needs a bigdave cooling off period from SoSuave - JMO

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Some counterpoint. Don't get on with this guy at all, but he's not stir crazy. Basically average internet guy.

Didn't he already get banned for hitting on that proper slaggish woman around here? Just stupid imo

He doesn't learn anything, and he sure as sh1t doesn't look stuff up and try it. Who the fvck does?

He's okay.
Not a bad guy at all, but needs a little cooling off period to reflect like bigdave. To reflect on what needs to be done in order to at least move towards the direction he needs face. It's the same threads over and over again. It's bigdave part deux.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Was thinking about it. Tough one really isn't it?

My basic opinion is that anyone who hasn't looked stuff up, hasn't really tried, and is using the place as merely an outlet to vent whatever spiel. Less patience with that type.

Dont' agree with his original ban which I was around to see at all tbh hence some sympathy. Think it's what should be happening. Not seen as much since.

Generally though ime, bad members = recalcitrant, non-developing, massive unconscionable post count. Mods here do give people a big chance and good communication. Not privy to the exact communication in non-developing, but i've got it for abuse.
Ban is a harsh word, as he's not a bad dude at all. Just a timeout to reflect on his social life. It's the same posts day, after day, after day. Dozens of members suggest things, but he does the same thing, day after day, after day. I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
 

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I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.

So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
 

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He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.

So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
 

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What a gay thread. Put him on ignore, sweetheart.
Opinions vary my gay loving friend.


Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
Yes, that wa Big Dave, just in Chicago, not New York.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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