Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Biggoal needs a bigdave cooling off period from SoSuave - JMO

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some counterpoint. Don't get on with this guy at all, but he's not stir crazy. Basically average internet guy.

Didn't he already get banned for hitting on that proper slaggish woman around here? Just stupid imo

He doesn't learn anything, and he sure as sh1t doesn't look stuff up and try it. Who the fvck does?

He's okay.
Not a bad guy at all, but needs a little cooling off period to reflect like bigdave. To reflect on what needs to be done in order to at least move towards the direction he needs face. It's the same threads over and over again. It's bigdave part deux.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Was thinking about it. Tough one really isn't it?

My basic opinion is that anyone who hasn't looked stuff up, hasn't really tried, and is using the place as merely an outlet to vent whatever spiel. Less patience with that type.

Dont' agree with his original ban which I was around to see at all tbh hence some sympathy. Think it's what should be happening. Not seen as much since.

Generally though ime, bad members = recalcitrant, non-developing, massive unconscionable post count. Mods here do give people a big chance and good communication. Not privy to the exact communication in non-developing, but i've got it for abuse.
Ban is a harsh word, as he's not a bad dude at all. Just a timeout to reflect on his social life. It's the same posts day, after day, after day. Dozens of members suggest things, but he does the same thing, day after day, after day. I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
 

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I sometimes think he's a troll or not even real. You know, playing a game on all of us.
He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.

So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
 

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He has a way of being very selective in replying to followups that only match his narrative/worldview. Keeps the thread going (i.e., keeps it trolling). Occasionally when someone calls him out, he might respond with with a one-liner where he plays stupid: "You mean you want me to do XXXX?", or simply: "What do you mean?", that sort of thing.

So while I've been in the "he's hopeless" camp for awhile, I'm coming around to the notion that he's a clever troll.
Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
 

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What a gay thread. Put him on ignore, sweetheart.
Opinions vary my gay loving friend.


Sometime he reminds me that armenian guy who looks like a new york taxi driver complaining that despite being rich he cant score women, dont remember his name cause he is in ignore.
Yes, that wa Big Dave, just in Chicago, not New York.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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