Westminster
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- May 31, 2023
- Messages
- 454
- Reaction score
- 592
- Age
- 60
26 years.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
thats right. these hxes at the gym are open season.When I was 50, banged a 24 year old for over six months. Met her at my gym.
Interested in hearing more about your look/style for this. My sister's friends are all 12 years younger than me and every time I hung out with them, all were giving me looks. From when they were 17, and I was 29, even up to now when they're 23 and I'm 35.I am 37 nearly 38 and I am pulling in the mid 20s and have gone as low as 19, but that was when I was 33.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Nice work.When I was 50, banged a 24 year old for over six months. Met her at my gym.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Her prime years. My man!I pulled an 18 yo when I was 31. I stayed ten years with her.
Yes broHer prime years. My man!
Im 28 and have stomach pangs when I think about my 30s. I feel like I already missed the ball. I know this delusion bc im attempting a perfect life. But tell me, being in ur 50s, is sex enjoyable and fun? Are u confident or do u still suffer from the same level of intensity when it comes to fear and insecurity? Also tell me my old friend, how is ur attitude in general in terms of optimism regarding the future? I already suffer from a cynicism that makes the future look bleak like staring at a rotten piece of cake with maggots with no other food in the fridge. When I was in my early 20s, god the excitement with which id get up in the morning, now all of that seems like a golden era already gone into the abyss of time...Married up until I was nearly 50, so all the larger age gaps have been in the years since my divorce
Biggest age gap was an overnighter at my place with a woman of 29 when I was 54. (25yrs)
There were also a few ONS/Weekenders in their mid-late 30s around the same time period.
Biggest gap with a 'regular' was a 42yo when I was 56... lasted about 5/6 months.(14yrs gap)
I'm regularly told I look mid-40s though... so mid 30s to mid 40s isn't that difficult for me.
Voted 10-14 for the regular.
How did u pull it off? Are u well off? Sometimes i feel like having ur **** together in the west and having the car/clothes/crib combo is attractive in a fantasy type of way for women...At 40 my main plate is 20
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.