Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Biggest age difference you have attracted and bedded repeatedly?

Biggest age difference with a woman younger than you?

  • 1-3 years

    Votes: 3 4.5%
  • 4 years

    Votes: 4 6.1%
  • 5-9 years

    Votes: 14 21.2%
  • 10-14 years

    Votes: 27 40.9%
  • 15-19 years

    Votes: 8 12.1%
  • 20-24 years

    Votes: 5 7.6%
  • 25-29 years

    Votes: 2 3.0%
  • 30 years plus

    Votes: 3 4.5%

  • Total voters
    66

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MatureDJ

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I prefer the ratio - was once 39 with a 19 year old. And I knew a 54 year old with a 16 year old. :eek: :eek: :eek:
 

itouchyou

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I am 37 nearly 38 and I am pulling in the mid 20s and have gone as low as 19, but that was when I was 33.
Interested in hearing more about your look/style for this. My sister's friends are all 12 years younger than me and every time I hung out with them, all were giving me looks. From when they were 17, and I was 29, even up to now when they're 23 and I'm 35.

I've always been under the impression that for mid 30s to pull much younger you have to be basically at the apex.. which is what I'm shooting for.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fortune_favors_the_bold

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All my girlfriends after my late 20s have always been around 10 yrs younger than me.

Even in my early 20s I was mostly dealing with late teenage girls.

I'm not capable of being attracted from older women or even women my own age.

Right now in my late 30s I would rather bang an average 20yrs old girl than a hottie in her 30s.
 

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Last year I was 44 and was hooking up with a 21 year old regularly for a month. She was crazy in bed but also just plain crazy.

Boy did she not like being let down by a guy my age lol. And she was a solid 8.5
 

soulforge

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I'm 47 years old.

My ex of 9 months was age 24

Kinda depends on how old you look.

I look around 35, so it's not impossible to get a 25 year old.

I banged an 18 year around 1 year ago lol
 

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I dated a 45 year old as a 22 year old, she gave me like 10k a month in "walk around money" consistently until I chose to leave after she cheated, did so to maintain respect and I retained her respect to this day, not that it matters since I'm not dating a woman in her late 50s
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SpartanWarrior77

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Married up until I was nearly 50, so all the larger age gaps have been in the years since my divorce
Biggest age gap was an overnighter at my place with a woman of 29 when I was 54. (25yrs)
There were also a few ONS/Weekenders in their mid-late 30s around the same time period.
Biggest gap with a 'regular' was a 42yo when I was 56... lasted about 5/6 months.(14yrs gap)

I'm regularly told I look mid-40s though... so mid 30s to mid 40s isn't that difficult for me.

Voted 10-14 for the regular.
Im 28 and have stomach pangs when I think about my 30s. I feel like I already missed the ball. I know this delusion bc im attempting a perfect life. But tell me, being in ur 50s, is sex enjoyable and fun? Are u confident or do u still suffer from the same level of intensity when it comes to fear and insecurity? Also tell me my old friend, how is ur attitude in general in terms of optimism regarding the future? I already suffer from a cynicism that makes the future look bleak like staring at a rotten piece of cake with maggots with no other food in the fridge. When I was in my early 20s, god the excitement with which id get up in the morning, now all of that seems like a golden era already gone into the abyss of time...
 

SpartanWarrior77

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At 40 my main plate is 20
How did u pull it off? Are u well off? Sometimes i feel like having ur **** together in the west and having the car/clothes/crib combo is attractive in a fantasy type of way for women...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Macadellic

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@SpartanWarrior77

She works at a place I frequent.
She always greeted me kindly and enthusiastically.
I mind myself, doing what I’m there to do and leave.

It took months to have our first conversation because I’m not going out of my way to chase.

Our first conversation happened organically where she told me she hadn’t seen me in weeks and how funny how she was thinking of me and now I’m here

Got her phone number right then and there.
Set up a date and fast forward she is my plate.

This entire time she made an assessment of me.

This is what women do.
They listen to the words that come out of your mouth and they will observe your behavior.

Yes they will look at external factors like what resources you have but if you are not happy with yourself and the life you have built then why would they want to come join you
 

SpartanWarrior77

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@Macadellic yeah man, I like that. It sounds like the perfect seduction. Simple, smooth and slow. Is she just a plate or do u see more of a connection developing? Hows her maturity?
 
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