"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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- Thread starter rapsta
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Alen-Delon
Senior Don Juan
P.S let her call you....
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Try to find some activity that leaves you exhausted, or at least takes your mind off stuff. Going to a gym, getting outdoors, etc. The wisdom in the phrase "the best revenge is a good life", is that you need to fill your days with something you're doing for yourself, which also will take your mind off her.
but fawk.. this girl is my soulmate.. this is the best girl i've ever met.. i really don't wanna lose her.. what if she falls in love with someone else? i won't ever have a chance to get with her then?PuertoRican_Lover
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-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
PRL..damn bro..good words of wisdom.
Rapsta..I replied a few posts up..but understand bro...women come and go..its the way of life..yea yea yea..you dont want to hear this sh*t now..but evey guy on here will tell you that there's going to be other women..
and heck..at 19-20 years of age, welcome it..welcome women, welcome the heartache, welcome new experiences..
soulmates? i dont know about that one personally, but, have you honestly met enough women that would qualify this girl you are dating as your soulmate?
ever date an american girl? ever date an older woman? ever date a younger woman? ever date a girl with tons of money? ever date a girl with no money?
my point? experience life...letting this one go (maybe even for now) maybe the best thing you'll ever do in life..
just remember that old trite expression...
when one door closes, another one always opens
What good advice. Read it again!
Most have experienced what you are going through right now, feeling sick, not wanting to eat, not being able to sleep properly. Its a real bad feeling, probably one of the worst you can experience.....it will only become easier. U can have fun and experience your life then, and maybe one day you can see her again and try work things out.
Dont throw the best years of your life away for something that may only turn out to be a pipe dream.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She may and probably will find another guy she falls in love with. Doesnt mean you two dont have a chance in the future. This is just something you have to accept. She will eventually most definately fall out of love with him at some stage and break up with him. People fall in and out of love all the time. If you two had something special, eventually you will get back together, you just gotta let time run its course.
I know a guy pretty well who, for the same reason as you, had to break up with his girlfriend. She went overseas to study also. 4 years later and after both had dated and had other boyfriends and girlfriends, they got back together. They are now married and have been very happy ever since.
Time will make it easier, and it will come in waves. Once u push through it, you will find it much easier to be happy again and live your life.