"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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- Thread starter rapsta
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Alen-Delon
Senior Don Juan
P.S let her call you....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Try to find some activity that leaves you exhausted, or at least takes your mind off stuff. Going to a gym, getting outdoors, etc. The wisdom in the phrase "the best revenge is a good life", is that you need to fill your days with something you're doing for yourself, which also will take your mind off her.
but fawk.. this girl is my soulmate.. this is the best girl i've ever met.. i really don't wanna lose her.. what if she falls in love with someone else? i won't ever have a chance to get with her then?PuertoRican_Lover
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-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
PRL..damn bro..good words of wisdom.
Rapsta..I replied a few posts up..but understand bro...women come and go..its the way of life..yea yea yea..you dont want to hear this sh*t now..but evey guy on here will tell you that there's going to be other women..
and heck..at 19-20 years of age, welcome it..welcome women, welcome the heartache, welcome new experiences..
soulmates? i dont know about that one personally, but, have you honestly met enough women that would qualify this girl you are dating as your soulmate?
ever date an american girl? ever date an older woman? ever date a younger woman? ever date a girl with tons of money? ever date a girl with no money?
my point? experience life...letting this one go (maybe even for now) maybe the best thing you'll ever do in life..
just remember that old trite expression...
when one door closes, another one always opens
What good advice. Read it again!
Most have experienced what you are going through right now, feeling sick, not wanting to eat, not being able to sleep properly. Its a real bad feeling, probably one of the worst you can experience.....it will only become easier. U can have fun and experience your life then, and maybe one day you can see her again and try work things out.
Dont throw the best years of your life away for something that may only turn out to be a pipe dream.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She may and probably will find another guy she falls in love with. Doesnt mean you two dont have a chance in the future. This is just something you have to accept. She will eventually most definately fall out of love with him at some stage and break up with him. People fall in and out of love all the time. If you two had something special, eventually you will get back together, you just gotta let time run its course.
I know a guy pretty well who, for the same reason as you, had to break up with his girlfriend. She went overseas to study also. 4 years later and after both had dated and had other boyfriends and girlfriends, they got back together. They are now married and have been very happy ever since.
Time will make it easier, and it will come in waves. Once u push through it, you will find it much easier to be happy again and live your life.