"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
big problem with LOVE
- Thread starter rapsta
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Alen-Delon
Senior Don Juan
P.S let her call you....
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Try to find some activity that leaves you exhausted, or at least takes your mind off stuff. Going to a gym, getting outdoors, etc. The wisdom in the phrase "the best revenge is a good life", is that you need to fill your days with something you're doing for yourself, which also will take your mind off her.
but fawk.. this girl is my soulmate.. this is the best girl i've ever met.. i really don't wanna lose her.. what if she falls in love with someone else? i won't ever have a chance to get with her then?PuertoRican_Lover
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-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
PRL..damn bro..good words of wisdom.
Rapsta..I replied a few posts up..but understand bro...women come and go..its the way of life..yea yea yea..you dont want to hear this sh*t now..but evey guy on here will tell you that there's going to be other women..
and heck..at 19-20 years of age, welcome it..welcome women, welcome the heartache, welcome new experiences..
soulmates? i dont know about that one personally, but, have you honestly met enough women that would qualify this girl you are dating as your soulmate?
ever date an american girl? ever date an older woman? ever date a younger woman? ever date a girl with tons of money? ever date a girl with no money?
my point? experience life...letting this one go (maybe even for now) maybe the best thing you'll ever do in life..
just remember that old trite expression...
when one door closes, another one always opens
What good advice. Read it again!
Most have experienced what you are going through right now, feeling sick, not wanting to eat, not being able to sleep properly. Its a real bad feeling, probably one of the worst you can experience.....it will only become easier. U can have fun and experience your life then, and maybe one day you can see her again and try work things out.
Dont throw the best years of your life away for something that may only turn out to be a pipe dream.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She may and probably will find another guy she falls in love with. Doesnt mean you two dont have a chance in the future. This is just something you have to accept. She will eventually most definately fall out of love with him at some stage and break up with him. People fall in and out of love all the time. If you two had something special, eventually you will get back together, you just gotta let time run its course.
I know a guy pretty well who, for the same reason as you, had to break up with his girlfriend. She went overseas to study also. 4 years later and after both had dated and had other boyfriends and girlfriends, they got back together. They are now married and have been very happy ever since.
Time will make it easier, and it will come in waves. Once u push through it, you will find it much easier to be happy again and live your life.